i have been married for 18yrs and it has not been a happy one.my husband does nothing but swear at me and he puts me down all the time.i never get anything for any special day like b'thday or christmas nothing.anyway i have met this beautiful woman in which i work with and she is a lesbian.we have become quite close and yes i mean very close lets just say we have done things that i never would have dreamed of doing but the thing is i have really enjoyed it.i love being with her spending time with her talking and laighing and just enjoying each others company which is something i have never shared with my husband cos he is always to busy with every one else.when she is near me or touches me it is like volts of electricity going through me and she says she feels the same.i dont think i know i am in love with her someone please help me
2007-02-15 21:58:31 · 13 answers · asked by niketa 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think you may wanna re-evaluate your marriage. I also think that your cheating on your husband. The woman your with maybe really into you or you maybe a fling to her. Either way you are dealing with more than just your feelings.
You should have a serious talk with:
#1 Him - regarding the marriage, your/his expectations, and your feelings.
#2 Her - regarding what this relationship IS and her/your expectatons.
#3 Yourself - regarding what YOU want and where your life is headed right now.
2007-02-15 23:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by blkqueen075 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably the most interesting thing i've seen yet. I truly understand you, because you are being neglected in your marriage and your husband is an asshole. I don't think you are BI....let me tell you why. First of all, you are in need of affection and that in its self creates you to be vulnerable to anyone who provides you with it outside of your home. Obviously we all are sexual creatures and we enjoy being touched, not to mention when it is forbidden it is even sweeter! So keep in mind that if it would have been another man that would have met you, you wouldn't be asking this question. At any rate, I think you should have fun and be happy. Who cares what anyone says, women understand women because we know exactly what type of affection we need. Men just don't give a crap and as a result this is what happens. SO GO FOR IT AND SEND HIM TO HELL!
2007-02-19 12:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Girlwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The few (true) bis I know have trouble in any 1 on 1 relationship. They are always missing that little something...
It sounds like your husband treats you poorly. You didn't mention kids. I won't dribble about marriage being for "better or worse", that's a religion thing. I won't take sides & deal out blame either- but your marriage is on bad ground. If you are looking for happiness away from him (gender irrelevant) then it's time to think about divorce.
If you settle in with your friend, let her know the score. Maybe you will find yourself looking at men, maybe you won't. Maybe she can buy a strap-on prosthetic.
2007-02-15 22:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should get away from anyone who puts you down. After that you will be able to think more clearly and know if you are atracted to both men and women. Or you will find out that you just needed to feel like a person again and thats what the woman gave you
2007-02-15 23:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by (",) JJ (,") 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! You are bi, but you are a valuable person, and do not deserve to feel so bad about being bi. You have some reason if your husband neglects you. You are like anyone else in this world. You find love when you can, and if your friend pleases you, go for it. The sexual things in your life are just as normal as the hetero lifestyle is, and the hormones are satisfied in you preferences. And that's the way it is!
2007-02-15 22:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by persnicady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that at all. It seems that you are unhappy with your marriage and with your husband. You should ask for a divorce, but keep your relationship with your friend quiet. At the same time, it seems you are happy with your friend--"electricity going thru me.." You're in love! It's OK to change course. Your happiness should be the most important thing to you now. The main thing I would encourage you to do is to end your marriage and expand your new horizons.
2007-02-15 22:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you what. I had always thought that I was gay but I got married anyway. I can honestly say I am gay for the simple fact that yes I feel things differently for guys than I do for girls but I will still do stuff with girls. I guess it's just a little confusing. You aren't the only one who is in that situation.
2007-02-16 05:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Leroy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I think a person is BI when they explore the thought of a sexual nature with another of the same sex.Not necessarily when you act upon it. I honestly think that the lady who posed this is love hungry and wanting to know that she is wanted, needed and desired by another human. WE all crave the emotion of love...either from the same or opposit sex. I am BI and just knowing that some else finds me attractive and sexy does wonder for my ego and person.
2007-02-16 01:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by panties4now 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave your worthless husband and experience life. If that means being in a relationship with a woman, so be it! It sounds like she is the only one that truly makes you happy.
2007-02-15 22:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are a lesbien, I think you just want someone to give you attention and love you,so this other lesbien women is taking advantage of you.
2007-02-15 22:10:28 · answer #10 · answered by no2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋