help me!! my husband is always putting me in a bad mood but i cant face telling him i dont want 2 be with him anymore!! how should i approach him?? it's like im scared of him and i dont no why!!!!
2007-02-15 21:43:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is time for a few days away from him. Tell him that you want to go stay with a friend or family for a little while cause you need a break.
Go back home and make an appointment with a marriage counselor!
2007-02-15 21:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. don't rush any dsicions that you may regret later… Being in a bad mood is not enough reason to leave him as it's not a reason to be afraid…
I think your fear is not from him but it's coming from the fact you fear being defeated. The basic rule in any relation is understanding the other person and achnologing the reasons of his behavior. Why is he putting you in a bad mood? There should be a reason for this and if you really love him you would know it in no time…
Also, give him the right to be angry sometimes and show him compassion. Because men are different than women, they can not accept being stressed and pressured all the time, maybe he's facing problems in his work, or maybe he has a lot to do and has no time, maybe he's being cranky because he feels you're the only person who should embrace him and tolerate his silly attitudes….
Try to relax when he's not around and setup for a romantic evening…. Think about the things that made you stay with him in the first place… the things that you loved in him…
Try also to convince him to tell you all the things that he doesn't like about you and tell him the things you don't like about him and about your relationship.
If all that didn't work and you still want to leave him, just tell him why you think that separation is a good thing for the time being and just take a break from each other… if you miss him, or if he misses you, then hey, that's good go back…. If no…. continue your life the way you want it to be…….
Wish you the best
2007-02-16 06:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all before wanting out of this marriage you need to go and seek counseling and help for you and for your marriage. Do not let your husband put you in a bad mood. Choose to stay in a good and positive mood in spite of it all. Sit down and talk with your husband about how you are feeling and why. Do not be scared of him. Honesty is always the best policy.
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2007-02-16 06:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're scared of him (and perhaps afraid you can't tell him face to face), leave him a note telling him there's issues and you're just not happy, you feel like you're losing a part of yourself. You can then either suggest counseling (if that is what you wish) or a quick divorce so you can get on with your life. If you stay with him after he reads the note he'll probably make your life ____ and you think you were in a bad mood before??? So, you'll have to have someplace else to go. Good luck
2007-02-16 05:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid of him, that;s not good. You have to tell him how you feel though. You can't stay in an unhappy relationship where you fear your husband. If he is willing, why not try counseling to see if some of your problems can be worked through together with the help of a 3rd party. If you just are ready to go, you have to tell him, Be sure your family or friends know where and when you are going to talk to him so you will have people aware of what's going on .If you are really afraid take someone with you that can wait in the car or be somewhere close by to help you. Good luck,
2007-02-16 05:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose to control your moods and not let him "put you in a bad mood." But....after time you will wear out and that becomes hard to maintain. If that is the case perhaps a TEMPORARY SEPARATION may be in order--for both of you to sort things out. If you are scared of him that is a bad sign and an indication that you may need some time apart.
2007-02-16 05:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you in a bad mood, you choose it. You say you want to leave him thats why you have the short fuse. Get a backbone and front up. Prolonging this situation is only going to make things worse. Perhaps its just you are afraid of being alone.
2007-02-16 05:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be a nice way of doing it but if your scared to tell him to his face, then you need to do what is best.
Write him a note tell him that way.
Or you could just pack up and go away for awhile to be sure that is what you want.
2007-02-16 05:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way then maybe you should ask yourself something?, did I really love or care for him in the first place.Too many times have people chosen marriage for what it would seem like the right reasons. More often within a years time(If that long) will they realize their mistakes, it's called life.
2007-02-16 05:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Edward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1)maybe u shud make him feel that u have had it by going against him all the time so he realizes that u cannot take it anymore..if he says left u say right..if he says dinner u say stomach ache..
do it again and again..either he has to change or he has to let u go.. or
2)If ever he is in a good mood tell it to him straight.. cause u might be going thru a difficult time..just pass on the tension to his grey cells..
2007-02-16 05:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by pradeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋