Would you?

Question

Ihave a 13 year old daughter and she is on at me to let her wear make-up.

I have let use a small amount of mascara and a little lip gloss..but wait for it now she wants to wear foundation etc..... why ....cause all her friends do!!!!!

I am not comfortable with the idea, i gave into the lip gloss and mascara now it's this.

My daughter is right when she says everyone is wearing it as i see it all every morning on the school run with my son,but i am not being funny these girls look like sl*ts and i don't want her to look like that.

Help what would you do?????

Answer 1

I would say let her use some tinted moisturiser so that she at least fits in with her friends, but help her to make sure she uses it correctly. That way you have some bonding time and she won't look sl*tty.

Answer 2

I'm now 14, so I do know what are the girls like in this age.
At first even if you don't let her wear it she will probably put on someone's foundation just before the first lesson and remove it after the last one, this is exactly what most of my friends do :) And yes, I can't disagree, they do look like *this word here* However not the make-up itself make them look so bad. Basically there are two reasons why they are so: First, they don't actually know how to use it. Second, they want everyone see they wear make up. Afterward they just can't stop, because they think their skin is too way bad to show it, well, they do have a lot of spots... But anyway you must not forget the psychological aspect. Your daughter must not feel herself uncomfortable at school. I'm saying that, because I had the same problem. You may try to deal with this just as my mom did. She bought me a foundation and mascara for teens and an every day use cleaning lotion. She won't have to use a lot of it and she will always look natural.

Answer 3

This is a tough one! When I was growing up, all the girls in my school wore make up, but not me, my mother would not allow it. I was the most unpopular girl in my year, and the other kids used to make fun of me because I was 'ugly'. When I finished school, and went to college, aged 18, was when I met the friends that to this day are still by my side, it was then that I started wearing make up and socilaising, which in my opinion was'nt such a bad thing. The only thing I would change if I could would be a little guidance from my mum, unfortunately, I went through the far too much make up stage and looking ridiculous stage but only realised when it was too late. I guess what I am trying to say, is that only starting to wear make up at aged 18, did not do me any harm, so if your gut instinct does not like the idea of your daughter wearing make up, dont allow it, you are her mother, and at the end of the day, she is still a child. In saying that, my daughter is only 3 months old, so I have a lot to learn when it comes to parenting!!! Hope it all works out, Good Luck!

Answer 4

Call Carol Baker Visage or another makeup place. For $20 you can buy her a membership that includes 11 free makeup applications (once a month except in December). When I wanted to wear makeup my mum took me there and they showed me not only how to wear minimum makeup for maximum effect, but told me the proper way to wear makeup.

The reason most of these girls look like sl*ts is because they wear 10 lbs of foundation and decide 1/2 inch eyeliner looks great. If she learns properly, she has no excuse to look like a teenage wh*re :P

Answer 5

She is at that age, I would try faking her out with a translucent powder or like a sheer powder. My mom took a before and after picture of me when I was maybe 12 or 13 and I looked like a clown, haha! It kinda convinced me to not to go too crazy with makeup for a while. But my mom also gave me a choice, the sheer powder w/mirror compact, lightly tinted lip gloss or a neutral eyeshadow. I only got to have 1 at a time and then I slowly graduated to 2 at a time and so forth. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

U should try to be even strict wiv her b coz if she wears all these things and dont mind she will look like a sl*t ( please dont mind) and if i had a 13yr old daughter like yours i would not let her wear make-up but maybe a little bit like u said mascara and lip gloss. and being simple is much better than wearing lots of make up and looking like a clown.
Hope that helps darling.

Answer 7

teach her the right way to wear it. to make it look lik your not wearing any at all, tell her also that foundation can cause her to break out in pimples since it clogs pores eye liner mascara and lip gloss goes a long way if applied properly. i know you as a mother do not want to think about your teenage daughter (your baby) growing up fast and sex and boys and all that are coming but you as the parent have instilled in your daughter your morals and now you have to trust her and yourself as a mother that she will make the right choices but dont make her feel left out and dont be the reason she being made fun of at school

now we know in there real world it doesnt matter what everyone else does but she hasnt learn for herself yet you have to let her learn for herself

Answer 8

This is really hard. My mum never let me wear make-up and I used to slap my friends make-up on once I got to school. I'm 24 now with 2 kids of my own and can see this from your point of view, I agree with what someone else said and get her some tinted moisturiser but explain to her why you don't want her plastered in foundation. Plus all that stuff isn't gonna do her young skin much good either. Good luck to you hope your daughter doesn't give you to much grief over it. Sarah xx

Answer 9

I told my 16 year old daughter a couple of years ago that if she learned how to put it on properly so that she didnt look like a circus clown then i would let her wear some to school - she sat for days trying out make up and asking me if it looked ok until i finally said yes - she started with blue and pinks but i finally wore her down to beige tones

now when she goes anywhere with her friends or me her makeup is nice and she looks natural instead of looking like she ran head long into a cosmetics factory (like some do)

hope this tip helps

Answer 10

ur her mother and she is asking for ur permission which is a good start, preharps u could let her she is a teenager now..... show her the correct way of applying foundation... so she doesnt look like a sl*t, and make sure its the right colour too. preharp u could start of slowly by allowing her to wear it for special reasons and not school untill u are more comfortable. this way she will not go behind ur back and do it anyway

Answer 11

well im 13 (14 in 8 days =]) and i do feel pretty bare when i'm not wearing make-up. if she applys it properly then she won't look like a sl*t and lets face it 13 year olds do get stroppy when they don't get their way!! i think you should let her wear it because she might feel left out when all her friends are having make-up chats and stuff but dnt let her do what girls in my year do and wear foundation way too dark for them so that you're orange and your neck is white. its pretty disgusting lol