Valentines, he knew it was because he took my daughter to school and carried the 2 boxes of heart chocolates for the teachers!
I kind of feel like I am not at all appreciated now and also, it JUST hit me tonight! Am I being foolish because I am bummed about this? Should I call him on it?
2007-02-15 21:00:27 · 25 answers · asked by Mt ~^^~~^^~ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, lately he has been acting irritable, I pay all the bills and get accused f spending all the money!!! Go figure! Is he ging to pay those bills on his own? NO! I think he is fed up or bothered about something...??? So this just added to me not getting anything, added paranoia.
2007-02-15 21:25:04 · update #1
1)he has money too, he makes $45.00 an fricken hour!
2)He takes her to school on his way to work.
3)No I got him NOTHING, I was flat on my back in bed with a kidney infection for 4 days- I went to the emergency room only.
2007-02-17 14:45:23 · update #2
You have every right to feel bummed about not being acknowledged on Valentine's Day. Like you said, it sounds like he may have an issue with you and he exhibited it in this way. Men have a really hard time saying what really bothers them in a relationship or if there's something that you'd done or said that bothers them, they won't just tell you. It may be days or weeks later that it will come out and it may have nothing at all to do with what they're bothered about. The trick is finding out what really is bothering him. What about having a "belated" Valentine's Day -- surprise him with a candlelight dinner, your total attention, special outfit ... you'd be surprised what all you can find out when he's feeling secure and loved. There might even be an apology for not remembering you on that special day but let him know he can pick another day to surprise you!
2007-02-15 22:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should judge if you are appreciated or not by not being spoiled on Valentines. If my husband was a dog all the time and then bought me the BIG RED HEART, stuffed little puppy, sweet card and a few dozen stargazer Lillie's(my favorite flowers) for valentines or just any hallmark holiday it would not change how I was treated the rest of the time.
If my husband is loving and respectful and just wonderful all the time to me but forgot Valentines Day, it would not change the awesome husband that he is EVERY DAY.........
Tell him how it made you feel that he did nothing for you. He might not realize it hurt you.
I would really look at how you are being treated everyday. It's all the little things we do daily that show how we feel for each other and how much we appreciate each other.
2007-02-16 05:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by hiscinders 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did YOU do for him? That's the most important question here that you should be asking yourself.
Stop looking for what he does or doesn't do for you. If you aren't doing these things either, regardless of the reasons, why should he do them for you? He probably figures it's better to save some money, you already know he loves you, and that it's a childish holiday that you don't care too much about and he doesn't want to waste his time on it.
you should've planned something to surprise him with, and if he didn't do anything for you, so what?
My husband used to be this way himself. he would forget my birthday, Valentine's day, Anniversary, etc. I got tired of this and so just started to plan everything myself, without his help, and got things for him. He's learned pretty quick what it means to me just by seeing what I do for him.
This Valentine's he bought me a bench from Pier 1 for 250.00 that he knew I wanted really bad! See? You train 'em and they'll do anything for you. Just treat 'em right, honey!
2007-02-16 05:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'm sure it goes deeper than not acknowledging Valentines! Especially when you commented that it just hit you that you are not being appreciated. It probably pops up in every single aspect of your life right? Take that as a wake up call. Don't just "call" him on the valentines thing, talk to him about your whole relationship and what is missing. If he acts like he's not interested in doing anything different than normal, then maybe you need to re-assess your life and partnership with him!
2007-02-16 05:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm k first off val's day is for kids. second what's so important about mr. (or mrs? miss?) valentine anyway who got a day named after him? he/she is or was probably some trangendered sex addict in the first place.
btw...since you're marreid you 2 probbaly love ach other right if its a good to perfect marriage? why should either of you show love on just ONE friggen day of the whole year? you should be going strong your whole life through.
val's day is a hallmark money-making sex gimmick that is responsible for more break-ups then hook-ups/make-ups simply for this reason "OH you didnt do anything for me today! you dont love me!"
i think valentine has been dead for a few hundred years..time to bury him/her completly already. he/she is worse than the friggen titanic thats still making news. (apparently the hulls & what not have split & are currently sinking into the floor to disappear forever...big deal..so is every other ship down there...)
2007-02-16 05:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by swordofmystique 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Valentine's Day is a foolish pseudo-holiday. I would prefer not to celebrate something that was manufactured by jewelry, card and chocolate companies so they could make a profit off of guilt and manipulation.
However, I did get a Mystic Topaz pendant and a box of chocolates from my husband. He celebrates this holiday so I figured I'd participate.
2007-02-16 05:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Joa5 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I made my husband a nice dinner, he brought home a box of chocolate, and we are going to the orchestra tonight as out gift to each other. I realize Valentines Day is a made up(ish) holiday, but my husband and I enjoy doing nice things for each other, and spending time together in and out of the house.
2007-02-16 14:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Valentine's are not that special it's mainly a teenager day.. for me it was important because it was teh day I asked my wife to marry me :) so we celebrate it still.. otherwise I think I'd come home only with some flowers ...
this year I gave her a full day in a luxury spa where they'll make her massages.. masks and where she'll bathe in donkey milk like Cleo :)
2007-02-16 05:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lorenzo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well without knowing what you have done in the pass I am not sure. Does he usually get you something? maybe he feels its time to mature and move on pass things like this. I think Valentines day is mostly for those new relationships but after being married for many years i don't think its necessary.
2007-02-16 05:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Valentine,
did you get him anything for Valentine's Day?
He may not have any money to buy you anything, since you say, you pay the bills. Get someone with cash, lots of it. Love needs money.
If he was taking your daughter to school, why wasn't he at work?
There is more fish in the sea., honey.
2007-02-16 05:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by casmileor2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋