In the beginning, he kissed me all the time. He never said stuff
like that. He gave me more romantic attention in and out of
the bedroom. The only thing that I have done differently is
give him more intimate attention. It seems the more attention
I give him the more vulgar he gets, the more he treats me like
a sex slave or something. What am I doing wrong? There
has to be a way to get him back to the way he was. There has
got to be a way to get him to be more romantic and intimate
with me. I am trying to love him. I want him to love me back,
not grope me back.
2007-02-15 20:26:18 · 11 answers · asked by white_willow_wisp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him that.
though we would love for our men to,they can't read our minds.
break it to him gently in a way that doesnt tell him that he aint getting the job done but tells him, i want to be treated like your wife,not a prostitute
2007-02-15 20:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way he was was all for show...Ever hear of men being compared to peacocks? Of course your husband was "loving and attentive" in the beginning. He wanted you to stay and once you did he was able to drop the facade'. That's why you need to get to know the other person VERY well before you get married. Back in my grandparent's day engaments lasted forever...well almost but it gave the couple time to get to know one another, time to figure out if they could tolerate a lifetime of their partner's quirks. Nowadays couples get into the sexual aspect of the relationship too soon not giving themselves time to actually KNOW the person they're in bed with before they get married...and somewhere down the road the facade' starts to fade and the real person underneath rears his ugly head. You've just met the real person your husband is.
2007-02-15 20:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i replied before bgut here is a better one! just stop giving him sex. simple as just don't do it. he will be kissing and cuddeling you more than ever by the end of the week trust me. and i bet he loves you more now than before but he just finds it hard vto show it. honestly no sex nothing, don't even try to cuddle or kiss him just leave it to him and within a week he will be the one instigating the kissing and the cuddeling and every time he stops and goes back to the way he was before just do the same no sex etc. if he wont give you what you want, then don't give him what he wants. you are nobodies sex slave even if you do wear a wedding ring
2007-02-15 20:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am answering both your questions at one time. Let me take a guess and say he is about 35ish, and you around 32ish, your sex drive is up, his is down? I also bet he is an old school man, all of that is normal. for fixing it, I would make a deal, if he grabs you he has to kiss you, and for the other part, don't give him any, and take care of your self in front of him, if that doesn't work , have him go to a doctor.
2007-02-15 22:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing anything wrong, other than allowing him to treat you like that. You need to be firm and specific with him, letting him know how you feel. That you are not going to stay in a one sided relationship.
2007-02-15 22:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bearess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first you were a housewife in bed.............. now you're every man's fantasy................ let him fantasize or go back to being a housewife.
p.s. Be careful, throwing the bones in the garbage while the dog's bowl is empty could get you bit.
2007-02-15 20:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes trying to spice up your alls sex life i dont think he means anything bad by it but if its really hurting your feelings tell him look thats hurting my feelings find a different way to play
2007-02-15 20:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by vamp_19772001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are out of sync sounds like or out of love you make it sound like you don't have sex anymore al all.
2007-02-15 20:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will never change, you have to get out, sorry. Learn your lesson now, before it's way late.
2007-02-15 20:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Orion Quest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him or just try ignoring his advances for a while. Thats not on girl
2007-02-15 20:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋