i could not able to marry my girl friend becoz of my parents n we have breaken up our relationship after that she got married to another guy. because of the love and affection i had with her i called her after marriage she didnt care me and said she is happy with her husband. being responsible person and aware about the situation i never called her back. 6 months passed away. recently, one day suddenly she called me up and said she is missing me and loves me a lot. i could not understand why she didnt care me after marriage? And now why she suddenly says that she has feelings for me.? iam in double minded state.one mind says to have a relationship with her and second mind says that iam doing wrong thing by disturbing a family. Before her marriage we had XXX couple of times and both of them had a very sweet moments with each other. Right now iam single.
2007-02-15 20:19:21 · 19 answers · asked by Feel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't fall into her trap! Find somebody else!
All the best!/
2007-02-15 20:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ebby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like things arent going well in her marriage and you may be an out for her.
Parents shouldnt stop you marrying the one you love. Its your life and you need to make the right decisions that will make you happy.
If this girl is the one for you and you truly love her, then you should pursue her and find out why she has called you and what has happened in her marriage to make her relise that you were the one.
If she is not the one, then you should contact her and say I still want to be friends but nothing more. We have to have our separate lives.
If you can see yourself growing old with her, sharing a house, holidays and children together and you feel you will get the same love back from her, then go for it!
2007-02-15 21:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has issues that neither you, nor her husband can help her with.
Chalk it up to a life experience and go on your way... without her. She needs to work out her own issues before she can ever be in a healthy relationship. There's water under the bridge now, so don't bother trying to rekindle anything with her.
Not to sound so rude, but I'd also suggest cutting all ties with her. Do not stay in contact with her, just move on with your life. She sounds as though she's toxic, and when it comes to toxic people, the best thing a person can do is to just wash their hands of the person.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-15 20:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sad story. The road to happiness is sometimes rocky. Maybe she married this other guy because she felt rejected by you. If your parents didn't like her...and you decided to reject her...What else could she do? This does not mean that she had stopped loving you. Maybe you could meet her in a public place for you both to talk and to see if you still have the same feelings for her. If she has married the wrong person and you still want her...No matter what your parents say...Go for it.
2016-05-24 06:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Main problem of yours is U are confused becoz U loved her lot & couldent get her. but Do U think your relationship have any future? u couldn't marry her becoz of your parents now will they permitt you & is she want to leave her husband &want to marry you? or want to keep an extra marrital affair? after some days Ull be getting married what if your wife ll do this or if she not- if you are having sister would u like your brother in law do the same thing? &after all these thing if U keep relation with her will u yourself like this? wont u b confused all the time that u r doing right or wrong? I know it is difficult but I think u should get marrid & try to find love in your wife I m not saying that forgrt Everthing But trust me after your wife comes in your life automaticaly u ll forget everthing.
2007-02-15 20:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by pari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things.
In life you will realize that you had something good, when you don't have it anymore and in general to late.
Remember one thing people have to life with the choice they made. If she married somebody else instead of sticking with you despite the family and give it a hard try (so, after you both could say WE REALLY TRIED) than she have to life with the consequences.
But trying to meet each other her consequences will become yours and who knows what else can come out of it (her husband, your family, her family, reputation, etc....)
I can imagine at this stage you have nothing to lose (you are single), the only thing I am saying: give it a good thought.....! And not with the pink glasses, but honest to yourself and after that whatever you decide.... you will be fine.
2007-02-15 20:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by John Th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude to be Honest " GET OVER IT " . Get Out of this hangover & start a new life . You cannot destroy other people's life just for your own selfish reasons so you should tell her that " its over now live happily with your husband for the rest of your life "
Truth hurts bro but you can't just ignore it face it like a man
Everythings gonna be alright
2007-02-15 20:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by DJ_Mon2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be wrong to disturbing a family go with the second mind says and find you some one who not marry to go out with
2007-02-15 20:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it, how would it be making her husband feel if he found out? Do you really want to do that to someone? Are you really that selfish?
Besides, you can't get a really meaningful relationship with someone who is willing to cheat on their husband anyway, what if she were to do that to you someday?
2007-02-15 20:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the girl to go screw herself! dude! if she didnt want you then, why would she want you know??? think about it....this isnt a good thing. Obviously she doesnt care about you that much, I mean she married another person for god sakes!
2007-02-16 07:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by fin m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋