What does it take to make a marriage work??

Answer 1

First off it takes unconditional love and commitment. It also takes a whole lot of forgiveness and working together through the rouh hard and trying times of life together . It takes honesty and trust and communication with each other. Take away the fighting and arguing and add in calm talking and rational thinking before speaking. Mutual respect goes both ways in a marriage and not one person is boss! Also the golden rule applies here as well. Treat and love each other the way you would want them to treat and to love you. Unselfishness is key and loving each other for who they are on the inside and not just the outer shell and appearance. Holding hands and togetherness is important and also sleeping in the same bed works. Do not ever go to bed angry with each other. Dating each other i would say at least twice a month is key to keeping the marriage and relationship alive and having God as the center and Head of your marriage is very important. Also another key factor is DO NOT try to change your spouse. The only one you have any power to change is YOU so that you can learn how to be the best spouse you can be to your partner and love them the way that you should! Remember if they see a change in you towards them then maybe just maybe they will want to change and be a better spouse and partner too. The harder you work on and at your marriage every day together the more successful and happier it will be. People work harder at their jobs to become successful and climb the corporate ladder. They also work hard at parenting to become better parents and to learn how to raise their kids right. SO to me working on our marriages is just as or more important and it takes this to make them successful and happy so that they will last and last and last.

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Answer 2

The old system of marriage has really phased off and only the formalities are left on cultural part. But the theme,central idea for lasting of married life remains same for all practical .
To make a marriage work you need to have:
1. Good understanding between wife and husband.
2. Respect each other's wishes and try to discuss all the issues pertaining to day to day life.
3. Never hide any thing from each other, be true.
4. To keep in touch even from far of distance (communication)
5. Understanding each others sexual desire.
6. Taking interest in each others job to give an lending hand where ever possible.
Note; Its the duty and responsiblity of both to work towards gaining the love and confidence of each other.

Answer 3

Love, Honesty, Commitment, understanding, respect and TRUST most importantly. Trust is the main factor for many failing marriages. couples have to be open with each other and good communication at all times is important. If you don't communicate, your partner will never know your feelings. Respect each other and be committed to one another understanding the fact that you two are together for a reason. Whatever life has to offer, keep the flame of love burning and share a laugh or two.

Answer 4

1) The fact that you truly want only this person for the rest of your life, and vice versa.

2) Very compadible when arguing, meaning you both start, argue, understand, and solve problems when they come up between you too, never leaving baggage.

Problem is, most people don't really know what they want, why they want it, and are pretty much confused about most aspects of their lives. So they always pick to be with people on impulse rather than actually knowing what they're looking for.

The other problem is, most poeple think marriage means no arguing, no debating, no facing the truths about your lover or yourself, or your beliefs, etc. So when it comes time to really bring up issues and be understanding, most (both men AND women), don't have a clue how to do it. One or the other or both is usually too arrogant, and full of themselves to do it. They point fingers at the other as the problem, tell their sexist friends who all agree with you and feed the fire, and the relationship eventually ends.

Good arguments that end in understanding is what brings you both closer together with each debate. Most people are too weak for that for fear of loosing their "indiviuality", and so most people divorce or never marry.

Answer 5

Maturity and self-confidence have a lot to do with a successful marriage. Communication, love, respect and similar goals also help.

I think for two mature adults to have a successful marriage they need to really know each other before they marry. Too many people get married before they know each other or what each other wants out of life.

For anyone to enter into marriage they need to be ready to commit to someone; financially, legally and emotionally.

Best of luck.

Answer 6

Colleen has the right idea..it does take work,and a lot of it. Dont think that each and every day will be a bed of roses, because its not happening. Treat each other with respect, and allow them to be themselves. Then never, and I mean never let the sun set on an argument. No one sleeps till the problem is resolved. I have been at it 32 years and so far so good....tvtop_toptv

Answer 7

Work

Answer 8

It takes a lot of hard work and a willingness to love someone in spite of who they are. Marriage takes a willingness to be the first to say: I was wrong and to not say: "It is your fault."

Marriage is the hardest thing you will ever do--but it has the greatest rewards one could ever get.

Answer 9

In a word - teamwork.

Less selfishness in everything and enjoying living with another person; having the ability to compromise and forgive.

Answer 10

never ever go to bed on a arguement EVER, cos if u sort them out before bed, the next day its not carried over meaning the arguement does not carry on and on even if it means staying awake half the night sorting it out its definately worth it