grow up with both a mom and dad, living a otherwise "normal" life with both parents then around age 18 they split and you find out things were never "ok" and learn of all the lies and cheating that you never saw before or grow up with divorced parents and all that comes with that.. the back and forth the in laws the everything we all know that comes of that.
2007-02-15 20:02:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my friend had parents like the first couple, so I would go with the first one cause he really didn't seem to care when it happened. Pretty happy and successful guy too.
2007-02-15 20:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Tuco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tough question. I guess I would rather have both parents during the formative years. As long as life really appeared normal and there was no fighting, etc., you would have more stability and therefore a better childhood. Later, when they divorced, however, it would be a terrible blow and you would have to question a lot of what you had learned and experienced. I still think it would be better to have both parents while growing up though.
2007-02-15 20:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Hypatia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a lot easier for me to have seen my parents divorce when I was 5. I didn't totally know what was happening. I did know they fought and I never wanted to be left alone with my dad.
I think that if they had stayed together then I would have seen a very abusive marriage. It would have been physical and emotional. I think I would have turned into a different person if they had waited to divorce.
Since they divorced I was able to see both of them get into very different marriages than what they had together. They both remarried in the same year when I was 10. I think it's for the best.
2007-02-15 20:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First couple cuz i got the love i needed from both as i grow up,if there treat me with all the love until am 18 then better cuz am grown up & can decide things,the lies are there's to worry,i would still love then even if there divorced,unlike growing up without either my mum or dad's affection
2007-02-15 20:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most kids pick up on their parent's problems whether their parents let them "see" them or not. Funny thing about "sweeping it under the rug" after awhile a lump forms under the rug and you start tripping over it. Kids can tell when their parents are unhappy. In my home that was quite evident and I would have much prefered my parents divorce rather than being so miserable in their marriage that they brought the entire family down.
2007-02-15 20:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the divorce that upsets the children, it is the parents' behaviour AFTER the divorce that scars them! If you can divorce and be civil, god forbid even friendly to one another, and you DONT use your children as pawns, bad mouth each other, etc, etc then I will go with the divorce, if you can't then the child is better off being lied to
2007-02-15 23:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better for parents to divorce than to argue and fight and be misserable
2007-02-19 07:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way, country music makes more sense dudn't it?
2007-02-15 20:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Orion Quest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋