It used to be unacceptable to have premarital sex. But now it seems people do it all the time for the fun of it. So answer me this: What have you saved for marriage if you have already experienced all the wild stuff about sex? Then you go and get married and impose all kinds of rules on yourself that deny the same experiences that you already had?
Now what is the point of those rules? They are meaningless. So it looks like single people have figured out this loophole in life and will go and have all kinds of crazy sexual experiences before being locked down in marriage.
What a weird and hypocritical system.
I think if society is so open about premarital sex, then society also needs to loosen up these so called rules of marriage and not make people throw everything away (divorce) because they were being human (cheating).
2007-02-15 19:51:08 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love how you put this and you are so very right. What have you saved for marriage if you did not save yourself sexually for the marriage. What great gift to give each other on your wedding night. Nothing like be pure and ready for that special someone. This is not a good loophole at all. Did you know that when you sleep with someone one time you have slept with everyone they have ever been with as well? This is what causes stds and also people get pregnant and sometimes do not know who the father of the baby is because they have slept around so much and with so many guys. Trust me it is not worth it at all. Premarital sex is just as much a sin and immoral as cheating in a marriage is. Great points you have made here.
2007-02-15 21:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on Doc,
You used the term "marriage" and then describe it yourself with the term "locked down". who's the hypocrite? I suppose you were also trying to describe the act of adultery as just being human.
Are you speaking metaphorically? Since everyone living must die, why don't we take it easy on murderers. How OK would you be if your wife didn't come home for three days because she spent the night out just "being human".
I'm very open minded but somehow this doesn't strike me as debatable
2007-02-15 20:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Premarital sex has been around long before there were even marriages. Mankind has gained leaps and bounds both economically, and technological. But the one thing that stays the same is mankinds behavior, and our instincts that have been with us since the primortial days are still getting us into trouble as well as propogating the species.
2007-02-15 20:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marrige is based on trust, respect, love and wanting to spend your life with someone. sex is just another part of it. if you dont have sex before you may always wonder what it would be like with someone else and may be more inclined to cheat. having said that, the reasons people get divorced are not really due to sex, communication breakdown, growing apart, money etc are more reason for divorce than sex.
2007-02-15 19:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are supposed to save yourself because the bible says so,but if you want to go to hell then dont
if you thinking about divorce before you even get amrried then you aint ready for marriage because that means youa are ready to promise that person that you will do what it takes to spend your forever with them...
not leave when things get bad,that aint marriage
secod of all, lets consider a world where everybody saved there selves for marriage didnt mess around,and stayed faithful within their marriage
then you wouldnt have to be using codoms when you get married or have to worry about running into your husband/wife's ex lover,no diseases either
it is still unacceptable,but whats happening is everybody is loosing their minds and saying," i dont wanna wait till i get married i want to have sex now".
and you know why men are big hypocrites,because they say if a woman sleeps with them on the first date,you know she giving it out to everybody else,so why should you feel special.
but you'll have sex with her right?,but she aint good enough to marry.
how would you feel when you got married,knowing your wife had previous lovers and is comparing you to them,then you actually see one of them in the supermarket,talking to her.
but it sounds like you already ruined yourself...
when yuo find the right person then everything will be put into perspective for you and you'll feel like you wish you wouldve saved that for her,is there anything better to give your new spouse than something no ones ever had before.
you know that she isnt comparing you to anybody,and no ones touchesd her before you and no one ever will because she is yours,she waited because she knew you would come. and she saved herself just for you...
you cant tell me that aint romantic!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-15 20:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being ( human ) and cheating while married is way different than having sexual encounters while single before you met your spouse.
2007-02-15 19:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by onelight 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think marraige is a loophole for causal sex.
2007-02-15 19:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by 452 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
bang your brains out..just let me watch
I eat a good pussie let me join in
I dont mind crossing swords it kinda tickles
2007-02-15 19:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well argued! Bravo!
I am with you!
All the best!/
2007-02-15 20:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is sex, people get it anyway they can..any excuse is fine
2007-02-15 19:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋