A question for people against marriage: Why do you choose not to marry?

Question

Why choose to only have unmarried relationships? I'm just looking for a few solid & logical reasons.

What doesn't make any sense to me is; if many people are so strict about not getting married, then why not be just as strict about sex?

I ask because being married means your bonded with that person to the point that you become one. You make decisions together, you love each other unconditionally, you have the same accounts, etc.

But even if you don't marry, once you have sex with someone, you have more than have of a chance that you'll catch an STD. That STD will bind you together even after you move on to someone else because you got it from them. I'd rather be married to the one I got the STD from than get it from a stranger I'll never see again.

And pregnancy. I'd rather be married to the one I have a child with, rather than risk getting some girl pregant that I won't marry and probably won't see her again after we break up.

It just seems that if one is against marriage, you'd have to be against sex as well, unless you do it with someone you would actually marry.

Greg: In all actually your retarded. Here's the undeniable reasons why, so the world can read about your stupidity:

You assume I mean 'all' unmarried people are having sex. I was obviously talking about those who do. You assume that I think little to no people get divoirced because of infedelity. I was obviously talking about those who don't.

I never said you couldn't be single & celibate, or that you can't be selective when your single. Yet, you assume I did.

I also never said that being married is better than being single, or that being married solves sex & pregnacy problems or what ever you think I meant. If you read & understood the last sentence of my question, you'd realize that I'm not basing anything on some "fantasy" as you put it.

The fact that you assume the negative out of what I said proves it is you who's head stuck in a fantasy. You don't know how to read & understand questions before putting your foot in your mouth, which is what stupid people do, jack****.

Answer 1

My mom got married to leave the house, 5 years and two children later she got divorced. We're not living in the 60's anymore, we can and do live with our partners before marriage. I personally feel that I want to be 1000% sure that my marriage stands a chance and that I am really compatible with the person, and the best way of doing that is to stay with the person, there is no ways I will put my children through a divorce and that kind of suffering. To get married just because people think it is the right thing to do, or to get out of the house, or be a princess for a day, is wrong, more wrong in my opinion than living out of wedlock.

Answer 2

Have you ever gone grocery shopping, come home, put all the groceries away and by the time you're done, you realize you that you don't want anything you just bought for dinner that night?

Or have you ever been invited somewhere that you really didn't want to go, but you went anyway and end up having the best time you could imagine. Then later you realize that you were invited by mistake.

These are the reasons why I wouldn't get married. Women spend too much time trying to make a point.

p.s. this is what my girlfriend spent dinner time trying to explain.

Answer 3

Judging from the number of marriages ending in divorce on the grounds of infedelity, I think your stereotyping singles as being the ones out there having sex outside of marriage is a joke.

You can be single and quite selective. You can be single and celibate. Being married doesn't, despite your fantasy about what is going on out there in the world, carry your argument about sex and pregnancy.

In short, you're an idiot.

Answer 4

One of the main arguements is against the religiousness of marriage. There are some people who also don't a piece of paper being the symbol that binds and ties them together, they'd rather it be their love for one another. Another reason why some people choose not to marry is because marriage isn't given to all couples that should be allowed, an example of this would be bans against interracial or heterosexual marriages. Some people want to take a political stand against those bans and decide to not wed because they believe that if those marriages aren't allowed then the istitution of marriage is racist, sexist, or discriminatory.

Answer 5

God and Vows have nothing to do with it. I think these people have wizened up and are more practical than the bible thumpers that rant and rave about vows.

Being married only forces you to stay in an unhappy relationship.

Read below. If this is the case then marriage sound like more of a selfish thing. To be able to own somebody.

Answer 6

Its not that people are anti marriage, It is more than likely they are anti-divorce. Getting married is for people who go into it with growing old together. People that get married just to be married are what is behind the high divorce rate. Getting married, and growing old together are two very different things to most. Getting old together doesn't cross many couples minds when they get married. Are you pro marriage, pro divorce. Don't bother with the first if you see the second in the near future

Answer 7

Because I was married once and found that I am not the type to be married. I prefer to be single. And being an adult citizen of the U.S.A. I have the right to choose whether to marry or not.

Answer 8

Just because someone choses not to be married doesn't mean that person is running around having sex. Some of us do like being single, living alone, coming and going when we please, sleep and eat when we want, no one to hassle us about anything and living that one solitary life.

Answer 9

I seconded you. In my opinion, maybe thy are much ready to face and carry the real responsibilty of life. In marriage, you are not only one, but, bind together to become one. Every decision you are about to tackle will surely shared ideas of your better half and some people are not use to that.... ^_^

Answer 10

because most people go before GOD and make those vows knowing they wont stick to them I would rather not take that chance in marrying someone that wouldnt stick with them