Should i loss my virginiti?

Question

this dude asked me to loss my virginiti but i dont know if i want to and i am scared he will hurt me at school or something and i dont want to get my parents or cops or anyone involved please give me good advice not dumb advice

Answer 1

Can't you talk to your parents or sister or someone about this? It's a big deal. Sex is a major thing and you shouldn't do it lightly and if you really think this guy will hurt you at school you have a major problem.

You have to talk to someone you trust in person. Really.

Answer 2

I would imagine that you are quite young lets say 13 /15 age group. Well i am a bit older than you. But my advice is keep your virginity until you are quite sure that you love the person you are losing it to Dont worry that your friends have lost there virginity. Remember once gone will never return. Do you want to be called easy or.Flora. Meaning spread easy I dont think so If I was you I would not worry about losing my virginity to any boy that wanted to put his hands inside my knickers . you are still young and attractive . So please stay that way. boys only want a bit of sex

Answer 3

so many people will tell you dont do it. why? they have lost it and want it back!! once you've done it theres no going back so this makes it even the more reason you want to wait. when your young your mind has not finished growing so you dont know as much as you want to make yourslf bleave you do. with age comes wisdom!! its so true. an older person you might think is crazy could be the smartest person you have ever spoken too. dont lose it becaus a dude asked you too.

you know its time when the butterfies in your tummy go away, ( when that happens) it means your not nerves around this guy anymore youll be more comfortable if your not comfortabl it will hurt! when a woman is being raped it hurts because they are not comfortable because they dont want it. and you know the "new-ness" in the relationship is gone

thus giving you enough time to get to really know your partner. if a guy ever tells you if you wont have sex with him then he will leave you then that means HE ONLY CARES ABOUT IT!! and not you. plus teenage guys are very immature

if and when you do get on some kind of birth control

and if a guy wants you to "go down on him" DONT that is a very intamate thing that should only be done with some one you truly love and you dont want them mean nasty rumars going around even if they say they wont tell they always DO

dont be scared of him let him know your not scared guys feed off of girls scaryness tell someone anyone i know you dont want to tll your parents but if things dont get better you need to tell them they cant possibly get mad at you because you DONT want to have sex. and i know you prolly just dont want people to know you bussiness but would you rather them read about you getting raped in a newspaper or on tv?

Answer 4

Sex is far sweeter when saved for the one you marry.

If you are scared, there is no shame in putting a restraining order on him. If you were my daughter, I'd hire a really huge, good looking body guard to stay with you until the dude left you alone. (not to mention you'd be the coolest girl in school after that!)

Anyway, please don't give it away. Save yourself and pray that your future husband saves himself as well.

Tell your parents, tell a teacher, tell the police, anyone!!!! Because what if he decides to just take your virginity from you if you don't give it? Please protect yourself and tell someone who will take you seriously.

Answer 5

Do not just loose your virginity to just some dude. You have to make it special your first time. If you are really scared, go tell someone about it, because if he does hurt you or force something upon you, you will be sorry that you didn't say something. Plus, if he does it once he may do it again. So it's best to stop something before it even happens honey. Don't put yourself through it.

Answer 6

No. Abstain until you are married. I think I know why you do not want to get the cops involved, you are afraid of the repercussions. Tell the police if you feel that threatened. You have to talk with someone about this.

Answer 7

Having sex just because the boy wants to is the absolute LAST reason for doing it. Once you say no, anything else the boy does to try to get you to give in is attempted rape. That's not the kind of person you ever want to hang around with, let alone have sex with.

If he's threatening you, you HAVE to get the police, the school and your parents involved. There are some things you can handle by yourself, but this isn't one of them.

Answer 8

NO.

It's YOUR body, not his. He just wants to get laid.

I know you said you don't want this, but get your parents involved. They can be major pains, but they also only want your safety.

Sex shouldn't be about just pleasing someone else or avoiding pain. It should be something you want to do for yourself because it feels good and you want to share that with your partner. You'll regret it later if you do.

Not to mention, you'll be doing a public service if you can get some dirt on this guy. If he's threatening you about this, he'll threaten other girls and will probably go beyond threatening.

Sounds retarded, but tell your parents. Or at least a teacher so you can get some protection at school.

Answer 9

My advice to you would be to focus on school. You can't even spell virginity, or the word lose. If you are scared, tell someone who can and will help you. Obviously you are too young to make such a decision. Grow up first. Save yourself for someone who is worth it.

Answer 10

Well first off if you are asking that question then you aren't ready. If you aren't comfortable about it then don't do it. Talk to someone.....he can't hurt you for saying no. It would be easier and you would feel better if you said no and talked to someone about it who could help. Then having sex and regretting it later and wishing that you had stood up for yourself. It may be hard but it would be for the best. Tell someone and say no. Are you even ready ...do you love him?