How can I get my husband to last longer in bed please no smart comment this is a real problem for me I love my

Question

He says that its real sensitive whatever that means and he cannot help it.

Answer 1

think about it?
why do you love your husband,is it just because of what he can do for you sexually?
concentrate on him
talk to him about it
marriage isnt only sex,and your husband isnt only a penis.
how can we women be so hypocritical...
every time she gains weight she says she thinks her husband isnt attracted to her anymore...
and she tells him thats she's more than whats on the outside...
well,the same goes here,love him no matter how much he lacks.
i know your probably saying,"but what about me?" right?
listen if you sacrafice for him he'll sacrafice for you
try taking somethings off his plate,cause stress can do that also

Answer 2

My husband used to be like that for along time, and I can understand what you are feeling because he got off but I sure as hell didn't and it got to the point I just layed there becaue it would be over in a very short time.
We fixed that problem but the are still times when we have not had sex for a short while and is sensitive and it doesn't last long for the first two.
What he did and it will be frustrating on you but you have to be patient and have lots of sex because it will be rewarding for you.
We would be having sex and sometimes it would be only a couple of pushes in and out and he would be ready to come , but he would stop and start and he would do this constantly and I used to get so annoyed, but I persisted with him and then one night we were having sex and it was fantastic, it lasted over an hour and sometimes we have had longer without stopping and starting and it was pretty full on sex. it got to a point where I was asking for quick ones. That was a couple of years ago and we still have quick ones but he can really make them last too. Just keep doing the stop and start he will have to be patient and so will you it doesn't happen over night but it will happen.
I will tell you something else he did while we were doing the stop start method and I laughed so hard when I found out buit it worked. Go and buy some Bongela the baby teething gel and once he is hard put a little on the head of it and it will numb the sensitivity and it willl last, but not too much. It works. He was embarressed about it at first but it worked and I got rid of alot of frustration.
Good luck. I really do know what you are going through , so just stick with it

Answer 3

Part I Purchase the following two books and read them together:

(1) a little book for Lovers by Georg Feuerstein

(2) SEXUAL ENERGY ECSTASY: A Practical Guide To Lovemaking Secrets Of The East And West by David and Ellen Ramsdale

Part II

Have your husband get a complete physical exam by his primary doctor and then have him see a urologist secondarily.

Part III
Consult a Licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor (MFCC) to work out any non-medical issues that might possibly be contributing to the problem.

Part IV
Treat him as you would want him to treat you if the problem were yours and not his.

Answer 4

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Site: http://www.themarriagebed.com/pages/sexuality/splay/betterforhim.shtml

Answer 5

Foreplay is essential and loving words and sincerely spoken. Think about what you like him to do to you and tell him what turns you on. He needs to learn to be creative and thoughtful. Many men simply jump and run according to what I have heard. Its sad because if two people love one another, the one should prefer the other. Read the songs of solomon in the bible. What a turn on for a married couple.

Answer 6

Sensitivity happens as you get older, after ejaculation the penis get sensitive similar to what happens after a women reaches a climax. Certain parts of her @%&*) get sensitive (lol).

Age bring about a lot of changes, don't be affraid to adjust to them. try vaseline (petroleum jelly) will lower the sensation that brings his arousal without taking away the pleasure.

you can also slip him a half of piece of viagra an hour before bedtime.

p.s. FYI if he hasn't been circumcized, that 80% of the sensitivity problem.

Answer 7

Is He Young And Inexperienced? How long have you been together? Just let him know that you have needs too, be patient with him it is probably embarrassing to him . If he gets off that fast he should be able for a second go round . Be grateful that at least you turn him on . Don't let him climb on and then climb off when he is done. He should show in interest in pleasing you ,if not you have yourself a selfish man!!!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

My suggestion is focus who gets the stimulation and in what sequence. Part of the male system is simply stimulus. So if you are providing lots of stimulus to him, then he will expire sooner. I'd suggest you ask him to stimulate you without using his private part. Then his stimulus is less and he will have a longer time to enjoy you. Your response could be back rubs, soft kisses, but not direct contact or near contact with his private parts. Also, at times if he can detach himself from pleasing you and not be fully involved it allows him to cool down and be ready to please you over a greater time. Is he the pleaser or you? I think it sounds like you are the pleaser and you need to switch roles.

Answer 10

its okay to want sex because you are married and God has Blessed those that are married...another words He made sex for marriage, only. have him try to hold it and when he feels that he is getting there he can stop for a little while, then start up again............but if he doesnt try to please you then he is being selfish,........read: 1 Cor. 7:3-5, depriving your husband is not the answer either, go to God about this.....believe me you can do this, and He will help you plus He will also get a hold of your husband if he is being selfish. JUST PRAY!!!

Answer 11

He means his unit is very sensitive which means that intercourse with you feels better to him than the average guy. Try giving him oral copulation until he goes the first time then he should last longer the second time around.