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finally got up the nerve to ask my crush(my trainer) to 'hang out". i text messaged him asking him that we should hang out soon and he text messaged me back ten minutes later...that he would, although it have to be the next time he gets paid because he's broke as a joke" quote on quote.. andas we conversated furthur he went on furthur to say that he's a shy guy when it comes to women because he's afraid or rejection.. I asked him does he fell confident enough to get with an attractive woman..and he said yes but usually and he's not in pursuit .. well, he said it depends what mood he's in...So I text messaged him about a job..he's suppossed to be hooking me up with get no return message,I even called ..no call


I know in the past he has invited me to his church group(but never came through on his invite)..and he invited me to workout with him(never followed through)..but he has told me that if I ever hang out to call him..so we can hit up a movie..so I did..

2007-02-15 18:25:57 · 4 answers · asked by Lola M 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

F.Y.I...He actually pursued me.He's the one that told me he wanted to go out..and he found me to be attractive..and was asking me if I had a man...and offered to workout with him..

2007-02-15 18:44:26 · update #1

He is 25 and still living with his parents...plus he's been at a junior college for 3 years..

2007-02-15 18:46:26 · update #2

well.I know he's said things to me in thepast like..why everytime I see you..you're leaving..am I ruining your gym experience" then there was another occasion and he told me that If you don;t want to be here you don't have too" and he asked me If I played sports and told me he wanted to play with me" so he was showing interest

2007-02-15 19:17:49 · update #3

4 answers

You sound like you are frustrated and would like a little validation.

You are wise to ask what his actions are speaking. He has said one thing and done another many times with you.What that says is that he cannot be trusted to do what he says.

Rather than listening to what he says, observe his behavior. His actions don't lie, they only reveal the truth about him, that he is careless with his words and doesn't do what he says.

To trust this guy or to pin any hopes on him will bring disappointment.

Kind regards

2007-02-15 18:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0 0

Have you ever watched a bored cat play with a mouse?
It will trap the mouse then let it go...trap, and let it go.
I always wondered why cats behaive like this.

I also wonder why he risked rejection so he could flirt with you and not follow through.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Try being less available for a little while. Act busy. Don't return some of his messages. If he really likes you panic will set in. Since it doesn't sound like you are seriously involved with anyone, go out and have some fun.

Check your motives. Are you just interested in him because he can hook you up with a job?
Check his motives. Did he throw the job idea out there for bait?

This all sounds like a game of tag - you're it!

2007-02-16 06:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by TzodEarf 5 · 0 0

he sounds immature and unsure of what he wants,thats a easy one
and he's broke,girl run as far away from him as you can
before you get involved and get your feelings tangled up.
a man should at least have what you have if not more and if he lives with his mother and is broke but you got your own place and money
dont even give him a second glance you deserve much better than some one trying to come over your house,cause they broke cerfew at they're parents house and now they wont let them back in
that aint a man

2007-02-16 03:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0 0

ditch him. Look what hes doing to you! You keep calling over and over even though you say in the past hes done this before. I bet hes laughing with his friends saying you stalk him. He could have a gf also. Find someone else. Hes you trainer? get a new one. Hes leading you on and playing games with you

2007-02-16 02:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0 0

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