After18 years of marriage my husband and I seperated. we both started seeing other people while the course of our seperation i realized how controlling he was and I began to enjoy thinking for myself not having to answer to anyone, doing things that i was unable to do because he didn't want me to or bcause he would be angry I met this guy he is a great guy and I fell in love with him but he is financially incapable of taking care of me for I found myself taking care of him but we have so much in common and we get along so well and he really does love me for me, I can be myself when im with him and the sex is excellent. after a year my husband came back into my life saying he wants me back i went back to him because of all the years but im not happy, yes I have material things, but my heart feels empty and once again the real me has to be hidden I do this to make sure that my kids have the best. I want to love him again. Its hard. I haven't had an orgasm since weve been back together.
2007-02-15 18:19:53 · 9 answers · asked by thickness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try to make it work.
a divorce will set a bad example
let him know what you want and tell him your not getting it
sex is 25% of marriage,stick it out...
but if you only married him because he had money big mistake.
if yall arent both willing to try and make it work then yall are only married by name
but you married him,which means you took a vow before god saying that you were willing to do what ever it took to spend forever with that man,so if yuo break that vow what does that say about you.
2007-02-15 18:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other guys felt great in bed cause he was new. If you stay with him long enough you'll get tired of him too and sex will soon turn lousy. You casually mentioned he has no money and this will turn into a rage about a lazy loser after time. For an outsider, the husband is a better choice.
2007-02-16 02:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what love will shine through. If you are truely unhappy and not in love then move on. If you are still in love then you might be able to work things out. Love will get you through anything if you just give it a chance. Don't let yourself become unhappy, you'll regret it. Depression will set in and then ruin your life even more. Always put yourself first but keep the big picture in mind.
2007-02-16 02:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by lazerangel99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always remember money does not buy happiness, stick with the guy you love but, work as a team and provide for each other. You will be happier in the long run.
2007-02-16 02:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by ifawnzilla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lady please......sorry to say but why would you want to go back with someone who is controlling. you had gotten out and now that your in, your giving yourself a reason to stay with him. how do i know this, your bringing your children into the picture. let me ask you this.....Do you think your kids like to see their mother unhappy? this does not mean to go run to the other man. but lady, living with a controlling husband is an unstable environment for your children. this is not about you, its about your children, think about them, what effects this will have on them; mentally and emotionally. dont let your kids suffer!! if you do decide to leave this man, make sure that you leave him for good. dont be a double minded person, stay focus on how you can improve your life for your children....and please lady....going to the other man...is not the best answer.....Go to church, you will find people there that can help you to get on the right path. which is our LORD / SAVIOR. He loves you and every one around you. good luck! most of all.............SEEK THE LORD!
2007-02-16 02:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by JANE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing to yourself? Dont you deserve to be happy? Sooner or later it will crumble again, hopefully you won't hurt the kids again, with your indecision.
2007-02-16 02:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by friday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want love or money? to be happy and not so wealthy or miserable but able to have lots of shiney things?
think about it. its a hell of a lot easier than you think.
2007-02-16 02:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby only you can answer that one, follow your heart but think with your head. Don't throw away that which is good
2007-02-16 02:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. if u r not happy leave him
2007-02-16 02:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋