I take the time to listen. And I usually know what to say or suggest for the situation. And I dont tell anyone. But how is it advertised to people that I do this even though I dont say anything about being this way. Alot of friends come to me for counseling or to listen to their drama. Where I feel good about helping them, it just drains me/makes me tired to do it. Sometimes I get to the point where I dont want to deal with it but do anyways because they trust me. Plus I have my own drama to deal with.
But I dont get how they could know that revealing these things to me can work out? How come they trust me that much without knowing from someone else, me saying anything, or previous experiance?
(and they dont come to me with little things. But with big stuff like their rape stories from the past or current love relations being the main themes)
2007-02-15 18:15:35 · 9 answers · asked by rezruf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
also sometimes not only friends but people who barely know me and even some strangers.
2007-02-15 18:16:05 · update #1
yes I do say "I dont know" to them whenever I dont.
2007-02-15 18:24:25 · update #2
I also know that I'm not required to do it. It just sort of naturally happens.
2007-02-15 18:25:36 · update #3
It's God's gift to you man. very few people are like that.. and as the saying goes, with great power comes great responsibility. i guess you're human and you get tired too.. it's just that very few people take time out to listen, really listen to someone with no agenda. people love to talk, even guys. if ever you're in a situation where you're physically tired, tell your friends, and be the first one to talk so they know at once. tell them, man im tired today. and then you can also share your story to them. this way they know that it's their turn to listen. you have a great gift man. take care of it. God bless!
2007-02-15 19:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by J.P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know and Same here. It's because you are also a good listener and they can feel you're sincerity to lend an ear even just for a little while. That's why they are willing to take the risk of sharing their personal stories and experiences with someone they can trust like you. Learn to appreciate that kind of thing although at times it's a bit irritating already. (- -,)
2007-02-16 02:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Desire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just something about you. No one advertises it, I have had that too and do my best to avoid people too much. You may have a natural trust that draws them to you. If you are not a psychologist just learn how to say I dont know. Its not lying its just protecting yourself from taking on their drama.
2007-02-16 02:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must exude compassion and wisdom. You're not required to give advice just because someone is sharing. Just listen. You can nod or shake your head slowly and make a sound or two of understanding and compassion without ever giving input.
2007-02-16 02:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do the same thing to me, I'm known as the fixer...I fix everything...Weird thing, people, strangers as I'm walking through the store stop and talk to me...Its maddening sometimes...
2007-02-16 02:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is your personality and maturity. Maybe u are a old and experienced soul, which people are able to identify, and thus seek help and advise.
2007-02-16 02:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you look like an approchable person and look like a good listener..
2007-02-20 00:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by misia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. its just ur feeling
2007-02-16 02:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to think
2007-02-16 02:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by ERUM M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋