ok..ive been frustrated for years over this, is it just me? im 17 and a half years old. my parents still give me a bedtime of 10 sun-thurs(school nights) they dont let me go out unless im back by 10:30-11 on weekends, and if im more than 10 minutes late home from school there trippin where im at. i have to call them every second. i have friends NEXT DOOR and if i go there more than 2 hours during the day there calling me to come home. i have to sneak out of my house every weekend to do anything with my friends. and to top it off im a pretty good kid get decent grade's never got caught up or else i might be locked in the living room or in a bubble. there weird.
2007-02-15 18:02:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You have a problem that many kids would like to have.
YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU AND WANT THE BEST FOR YOU.
You will understand as you mature and become an adult.
2007-02-15 18:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are not letting you learn how to be mature and responsible. They don't know how to let go. If they are calling you to come home for no reason (i.e. you were supposed to do something and haven't) then it's time for you to try to proactively negotiate.
Although I never set a curfew for my teen, I think 10:30 on a weeknight is reasonable unless there is a school event that runs late. After all your folks have to go to work the next day and you may disturb them.
On weekends, can you negotiate around specific events - and don't ASK, just sorta tell. "We are going to a 9:30 movie and it will be out at 11:30. I will be home by 12. It that OK?
Before you leave for your friend's house, tell them where you are going and ask them IF there is anything specific they need you home for. Ask them BEFORE you go if there are any undone tasks that you need to do because you don't want to have to come home after two hours - you are planning on a video games marathon or something that lets them know what you're up to.
I don't know that these things will help, but you can try. Also you might try calling a family "pow wow" under quiet, non stressed conditions and lay out your concerns. You should be able to enjoy your senior year.
2007-02-16 05:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you an only child,? you sound like it. ask your parents what they are going to do when you turn 18 and leave there over protective butts.
our oldest when he was going to be 18 soon was gone til 12 on weekends and did have to home by 9:30 during the school year. (week days)
he had a part time job as well, you should get a job after school and on weekends to help them bread the bond of being so over protective.
have you told them your thoughts on this?? really put everything out there. if so and they will not change, then get a job, and then save then then move out.
2007-02-16 01:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll say they're weird. I mean, they care about you that much? Your safety is that important to them? Goodness I know of some parents who wouldn't mind if their teenager would take off for the weekend, no questions asked.
Your so called friends are probably jealous of you and wish they were as important to their parents. Most parents do not set rules for their kids, so their kids grow up undisciplined. These kids have no self-discipline developed, so they stay up too late, and eat whatever they want, and can't graduate, so no good job or college for them.
Is that what you want? I think your parents want more for you. Face it, in less than 6 years, you will need to be able to earn enough to get a place of your own, a car of your own, and some savings for emergencies.
Start thinking about the future, and you will have more time than just he next few years to have fun. I speak from experience kid, don't blow it all off.
2007-02-15 18:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Too Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom and dad are not your friend. They are your parents. They are only trying to protect you. I know you don't see it that way, but, they are. Just do the right thing. You state that you are sneaking out. Word of advice. You will get caught eventually, and then they really won't trust you. You will only make it worse on yourself. Just abide by their rules. You've made it this far. Soon you'll be 18. When that happens, you can get a job, your own place, and then you can do whatever you want. If you live in their house, then be prepared to follow their rules. I don't think they are weird. They just love ya and want what's best for you.
2007-02-16 02:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, you don't mention if your an only child or not. That could be it. Or are your their first child or the baby of the family? Because if your their first they could be worried about you setting examples for the other kids. If your the baby of the family or the only child they are busy holding on to you and trying to keep you their baby as long as they can. There are not a lot of parents like yours out there, but at least your parents care about you and your safety. They may be weird now, you may be this protective over your children.
2007-02-15 22:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Your parents sounded like mine! The bad news is, they probably will keep being that way for a while yet! I was in college, and I would come home for the weekends, my mom would tell me to be home no later than 11.....AND, she told me that I should be in my dorm room every night by 11ish. You just have to deal with it. I snuck out in high school....Good luck!
2007-02-16 02:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 04:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember my mom doing that to me too. Your parents just want the best for you. When you have a 17 yr old you will understand. They worry about your well-being.
2007-02-15 18:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by Pamelab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents know there's a lot of trouble to get into.That's why they want to 'buy as much time' as they can being vigilant until you get older and they feel your emotional intelligence has had a chance to catch up to your intellectual abilities.
2007-02-19 12:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋