I have 3 kids and tons of experience balancing a family. my new husband works 4:30 am to 1: pm with weekdays off and I work Mon-Fri 8am-4pm. I contribute 100% of my earnings( as well as my child support), he coughs up 50% We both alternate to care for our 1 year old son and 2 days a week I pay for a babysitter. He will relieve the sitter in the afternoon and wait for me to come home and take over. Even though he's home all afternoon, I have to pick up my other kids, as well as get dinner ready. On occasion he will make himself dinner, but never for all of us. It is his oppinion that I should keep the baby entertained while he eats so he can enjoy his meal. My question is...Is there something wrong with letting the child play around the house while I do chores? He is always at my feet, but Daddy thinks he's being neglected. How do I convince him that his expectations are unrealistic? Did I marry Fred Flinstone?
2007-02-15 17:18:58 · 11 answers · asked by noshenanigans77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not even Fred flinstone could demand that
been a divorcee I will advise you to put away your child support for your children future (at least don't use all for the household)
beleive it or not you are married to a selfish prick
you need to sit him down and discuss his 50% and also the way he treat you
this is a partnership it is 50% 50% or 100 versus a 100%
he can pick up the children from school or day care as well
Something we divorcee with children must make clear
you found me with my children
the deal is LOVE ME LOVE THEM
WHAT EVER YOU DO FOR OUR CHILD MUST BE DONE FOR MINE
THIS IS A FAMILY
Teach him the meaning of family & parenting
GOOD luck
2007-02-15 17:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did marry a neanderthal....
This whole scenario sounds entirely out of balance. Why do you contribute 100% of your earnings AND child support while he pays 50%? Why does he have to "babysit" his own child, as if the child is yours alone? Why can't YOU eat while HE entertains the child? Why can't he see that children don't learn by being coddled and catered to every moment of the day? Crawling around and playing is GOOD for a child - as long as you are watching them and not leaving them out of your sight, you are not being neglectful. I think you know the answers to these questions. There are TOO MANY questions. This guy needs to wake up and join the 21st century. He is being unrealistic, chauvenistic and unfair. And to fix himself dinner when he is home from work before dinner time, after knowing you worked a full day and have to pick up your other children and then come home and fix dinner, is just plain selfish and inconsiderate. You didn't ask for suggestions on what to do, so I won't offer any. You wouldn't want to know what I would suggest because it probably wouldn't be very nice. Just suffice it to say that you married a caveman. You are NOT Wilma Flinstone, and the sooner your husband realizes this, the better.
2007-02-16 01:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds like a real winner! Tell him that if he wants you to do more at home he needs to get a real job and work more than 2 days a week! If you are providing the majority of the income you need to stand your ground and he needs to stand up and be a man! Good Luck!
2007-02-16 01:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your new husband is a very selfish man who obviously doesn't know anything about families. If he did he would help out and not expect you to deal with everything and as for not cooking for all of the family he is a complete jerk .his kids or not he needs to respect you and yours or he is not worth being married to
2007-02-16 01:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by nvred78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, sounds like Fred Flintstone to me
Even though i think Fred was a little more reasonable with Wilma
2007-02-16 01:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
playing childern in the house with parnets is not neglet but make sure you find time with each of the kids to do what they like and make them fill special and tell your husband its not nice to mess the kitchen up for one!lol!!
2007-02-16 01:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he gets a good deal-- a mate and a maid.
2007-02-16 02:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think you know who Fred Flintstone is. How did you guys get so busy?
2007-02-16 01:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs experience.
2007-02-16 02:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stay home then.to take care of your son.
2007-02-16 01:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋