2007-02-15 17:12:48 · 7 answers · asked by gengen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Abusers are great at taking a hold of a person and making them somehow believe that they will not be able to live without them or be able to find someone else. Guess what? You are special, you are lovable, you are worthy, you are DESERVING of respect. Ask yourself how you would feel if your sister, mother, daughter or friend was being abused by someone that you KNEW was hurting them and who was bad for them. Wouldn't you want them to be away from that person? Would you believe that they would be incapable of finding someone else who could treat them right? Would you feel that somehow they deserved to be treated badly or that their abuser really didn't mean it the way he was coming across? Heck no - if you are like most people, you would be mad that some jerk of a guy was treating your sister, mother, friend or daughter that way. Well guess what? YOU are someone's sister or daughter or mother or friend, and it is YOU who are being mistreated. You can do better. You need to stop believing the lies that were fed to you by this no-good man wannabe. God created each of us to be loved and to love - not to be walked on, spit out and treated as garbage. You deserve a better life than that. Now start replacing this guy's lies with your own truths - that you are special, worthy, unique, you have value, and you deserve to be treated respectfully. Once you start believing that yourself, you will attract men who will treat you the way you EXPECT to be treated. Celebrate a life without this guy. C'mon - you can do it!!!
2007-02-15 17:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it very normal to still love a person that abuse you , that something
that does not go away the affair of the heart, but you need to
know that that does not matter when he is hurting you. time to
let go and move on it will get better as time go on , take it one\
step at a time and you will see that life does go on.. good luck
to youl and god be wth you.
2007-02-16 01:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. My ex was very emotionally abusive, he would always put me down and make me cry.. but now that he asked me to move back home.. i had to chance to re-find myself. What you need to do is to really hang out with your friends and really take time to find yourself
2007-02-16 01:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lidya L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be addicted to abuse. See a counselor.
It does happen to people!
2007-02-16 01:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be strong. He has a mental chokehold over you that you don't need. Your life will improve if he is out of it. Use this as your mantra.
2007-02-16 01:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur love is one sided... u love him but i think he dont thats y he abuse.... there r 2 ways to it..1 u countinue lovin him as u doin but whn u hve it to the limit u wil dump him ur self.. 2. is try 2 leave him.. try not to think abt him its very difficuilt but hve to do...hpe u get relax n get wht u want...
2007-02-16 01:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by zalan j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of the worst thing he ever said to you and how much it hurt....is it worth it to hold onto that?
2007-02-16 01:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋