my wife talks about how her exhusband has respect for her family.?

Question

Because I haven't gone to her Uncles viewing due to work and her exhusband has, she tells me he respects her family, but i'm not filipino like her family and don't want to see a body that has been on display for 4 days now. Basicaly i'm not Catholic and don't grieve the same way. should i be angry that she don't understand?

Answer 1

Your wife should not compare you with her ex husband, of all people. If you don't want to go, just send the family a card instead. But, it may make her upset if you are not there and she probably just wants you to be there to comfort her. You may want to think about that too. You shouldn't be angry, she already has plenty of family there, but if you have to work, you could at least pay respect to them by visiting their home instead of the viewing.

Answer 2

No you don't need to be angry, but you can ask her why she divorce him
and explain to her that although you care for her family but you are not comfortable viewing a dead body
*by the way not all Catholic view their dead for 4 days*
I am Catholic and I feel like if the person is gone once all the family are reunited for the service and say their Good bye you should let it go meaning in my family one day is all it take
4days that 's extreme

Answer 3

Sounds like theres some lack of communication there, perhaps she needs more detailed information about how you grieve. Plus with the loss of a loved one she's bound to be a little emotional anyway and I wouldn't put a whole lot of weight in what she says about that. Just be there for her to lean on and give an ear for her to talk. Have her tell you stories about her uncle, that always helps.

Answer 4

For some people a wake is a way of letting go of family members. You must have know that she was traditional when you married her. Even if you do have to take off work, go visit the uncle. Even more, you are respecting her family. And buying a lot of future peace.

Answer 5

know what you are going thru, but I know one thing for sure. Sometimes you have to take ad do andsay things to help wfey feel better, even when you don't unerstand or agree with her. Now may not be the best time, my friend, to try and get things your way, or share perspective. And attacking the ex-hubby will only fuel the fire, too. This may be one of those times whn you have to tak he pain and the problems with a smile, and pray for better days ahead.

Answer 6

its nothing, she is just missing her ex-husband. from your words its clear that her ex-husband loves her a lot and care for her family too. so try to give more space and time to her family, i am not telling you to be catholic but as a humanity. try to give more love to her better than the last love she had in her mind which she is unable to wiped out from her mind and heart.
its all upto you, don;t be angry ortherwise you will only ruin your family life.

Answer 7

I think that you should support your wife whether your Filipino or not or catholic or not or whether the ex is there or not, there was a death in the family, you should be there for support

Answer 8

Tell her to go back to her ex get another Filipino there a dime a dozen

Answer 9

Well no but ya'll should respect each others beliefs , but if that is a big issue then , are ya'll good for each other . Religion is a big part of a relationship.

Answer 10

She's messed up for rubbing his name in your face like that. Tell her we're all different. But you love and respect her and her family. Let her know that you're sorry you couldn't make it and not to mention her ex husband. lol.....