Okay I been w my bf for 5 yrs now we have are up and down like in every relationship.but am just getting sick and tired of him always telling me how stupid i am and calling me ***** and saying the worst you can imagine.things that make me feel worthless and then he has a anger problem he says cuz a piss him off and I can't have a intaligent canversation w him that why he gets upset w me.And then the worst part we dont havesex often either maybe every 2 mths and we live together. and to he don't even want kids. to tell you the truth he is a good man as far as providing for the family and loving my child. but how bout me he says he loves me to he sure can't show it.He says he shows it by helping me yeah he's been thier for me when I have needed him but I don't care about material stuff all I want is for him to act like he loves me. what can i do I really don't want to cheat but it's like they say what you don't get at home you will find it somewhere else. please help me
2007-02-15 16:56:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he doesnt love you..if he loves you he would respect you.leave him.
2007-02-19 16:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by misia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...It's very tough to give advice on a relationship that actually means something. If he does support you and your family thats nice, but he should be able to support you emotionally and fully! If he calls you a ***** and tells you you're worthless, it's not really that good of a relationship. Material relationships never work out and if he gets really pissed at you one day, he could even strike you, it's happened plenty of times before. I've seen this relationship a couple of times to notice the signs. Sex is also important. Sex doesn't just symbolize pleasure, it symbolizes that close bond you have with him and how comfortable he is to have good sex with you. I suggest you tell him about how you feel, you can even write it as a note or something and just see what he says. Listen to what he has to say also and try your hardest to find what you can do reconcile whatever started to push you away from each other. Just as that saying goes though, If you have to beg a man to love you or stay, it's not meant to be.
I hope that you somehow find a resolution and if you don't, I surely know you'll find that someone who will love you fully and completely! I'll keep a spot for you in my prayers, too! ^_^ Hope I was of some service to you!
2007-02-23 17:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by no 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it! Stop living with a guy when you aren't even married (which means he has not even had the slightest intention of committing to a life with you). He is not a good man - except you recognize that he supports you and your child financially by allowing you to share the roof he has over his head. Of course you care about material stuff. You want him to 'act like he loves me' but you put up with the most amazing crap because what would the alternative be? Living on your own and supporting yourself and your child adequately and making a future for yourself and your child. You know you can't do that without a tremendous amount of effort. You even mention how you would cheat on him possibly. What is with you? Reading your text makes me want to shout to all those young girls here on Yahoo! Answers who are living with guys, 'Hello, this is your future! See how rewarding!' Get your head together, move out, make a real life for yourself. Raise your daughter with a good role model - yourself as a strong, moral woman who doesn't make herself available for sex for rent money! Sorry to be so blunt but there it is. The kind of help you need comes from building some character and looking further ahead than tomorrow morning!
2007-02-23 12:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please end it with him. Anger problems and children DO NOT mix. I am sure you would rather be safe than sorry. You can find a more meaningful relationship with another man who will love you, as well as your child. Dont cheat; just get out of the relationship and give yourself some time...rebound if you must, but dont get back into another abusive (yes that what you are in, a verbally and psychological abusive situation) relationship. Good Luck
2007-02-22 10:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by ksmarriedcouple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does love you but you what he's complaining about has probably drove him to another woman and once they cheat once it's likely to happen again. be glad that he don't want kids because you will only want a stronger bond with him that you may not get then you'll be more hurt because you have his child and he still won't show that he loves you. tell him how you feel to see if his actions will change. tell him somethings that will make you feel likes he loves you and if he tries then he wants you to feel the love he has for you.
2007-02-22 22:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by rashida r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't' love you and he doesn't love himself. Again been there and done that life is too short leave this man that would be the most intelligent thing to do then tell him you left him because he just could not keep up with you intellectually
2007-02-23 11:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 8 years i have the same issue no sex calling me names and won't touch me unless its in front of someone he out til all hours of the night and when i give him the cold shoulder he decided to stay stuck up under me you don't need that kind of relationship Find someone that can make love to your mind as well as your body
2007-02-23 11:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by purplecatfancier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move out on my own if I were you. Its going to start happening to your child before too much longer, I would leave, or chance my child getting hurt. Which do you want?
2007-02-23 00:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by addybme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may love you but verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse been there done that. get on your own two feet to take care of you and your child (school, job, etc.) what ever it will take and move on.
2007-02-23 04:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by amthlone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say talk to hm about it and if it still doesn't work then you should tell him to do1 (go away lol)
cuz your worth more than that..if any guy makes you cry and they not tears of happiness hes not worth it at all...
xxx
2007-02-22 17:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's the attraction here? You can get that kind of "love" from the welfare department!!!!
2007-02-23 01:47:29 · answer #11 · answered by byotch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋