Just asked a question on what the norm is for sex over a month.
Was asking that 1- I am dating someone who works a lot and couldnt make it over Valentines Day although we talked and I dont think he is with anyone else. 2- The person I am dating says he has a high sex drive but doesnt always take it when its offered 3- My previous relationship (10 years) averaged at least once a day (even after kids and marriage) and often well above that.
Are some men just not as interested? What does a man place above sex? Do emotions play a big role for some men? Sorry just trying to figure this out and I know its not me. Thanks.
2007-02-15 16:39:07 · 12 answers · asked by Paradox 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Every man is different dear, I will tell you how I feel and hopefully that will help. I personally enjoy sex only if I can completely satisfy my partner. I put forth allot of work into it and typically take up a great deal of time, I cannot enjoy sex if my partner is not enjoying it. I do love sex though, and want it all the time. There are times however, if I had a long day at work or I didn't get much sleep at night or I am just in a bad mood where I do not have the energy to perform as well as usual, I know that I will not be able to satisfy my women like normal. If I am in that mood, I usually will not have sex.
2007-02-15 17:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a lot of things. Men have different sex drive levels as do women.
Things that may affect it - the pleasure or climax levels involved, creativity in bed, equal participation.
Also, stress, fatigue, guilt, impotence, ridicule, insecurity, poor lovemaking, suspicion, cheating, teasing, medical problems such as blood pressure, cholesterol, certain medicines, anxiety, even masturbation, can affect it adversely.
some good factors include, experience, caring, emotional high, fitness, sex appeal, intrigue, mild teasing to foreplay. Massages and lotions are good.
As far as wanting vs needing, there is really little difference. It all ties back to desire.You might need it if you are trying to have a baby, or if you have been teased severely and your b**ls are blue and about to burst. Sex is a very good stress relief though. Good for burning calories too. Great for insomnia. Most will sleep like a baby after wards.
Hope this has helped.
2007-02-15 17:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by TopCatt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most men, sex is most enjoyable the first time with each woman. If he has sex with the same woman repeatedly it is likely that the pleasure levels will taper off. A new woman is always an enticing factor. It is a question of desiring (wanting). When such a desire is strong it can often resemble a need. But it remains, at least in my opinion, still but a desire. The true need for sex with a particular woman continually - can only have its roots in true love (which I think is lacking in most relationships).
If a man's interest in sex with a woman wavers, it should be concerning for the woman who loves him. Time to revive the relationship more than it is time to revive the sex life.
Men do not always equate love and sex as closely as a woman does and it is wise for a woman to know that. Sex can be a scourge for some men.
A good question to ask is "Has your man has lost interest in sex altogether or lost the interest just with you?".
2007-02-16 02:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex like your eighteen is a breeze when your eighteen. Work, stress, exauhstion, woman demanding sex, instead of turning a guy on. All these things can contribute. As for Nunyas answer, she doesn't seem to understand that a female can have sex 24/7 but that means nothing about the sex drive. Females don't have anything that needs to perform a.k.a erection in order for sex like males. Her lying there isn't a sex drive, its just lying there
2007-02-15 20:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loaded questions. Check out some articles or books on sexual addiction. It is very secretive-esp. with men. You never know-he could be living a double life with someone else. Or compulsively masturbating to his pornography when you are not around. Or, if he's a selfish guy, not giving it up to you unless or until he wants it. Either way, it's not worth fooling with him if YOU aren't being satisfied. Remember, you should come first to you. No man is worth all the wondering and worrying. Check into it do not be blind-there could be something wrong. Sometimes when they don't want sex it could be due to their other compulsive behavior (acting out) again, as stated earlier, done in secret.
2007-02-15 16:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go 3x a day, every day of the year if I could. I love it and never get tired of it.
I place nothing above sex. Time, job, overtime, kids, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sleeping, yardwork, etc., keep this from being a possibility for the two of us. I love my wife more than anything in the world as a person and best friend.
Most guys that aren't interested in it are either gay or just not good at it - their egos are bigger than their sexual appitite and their willy. Their wife's or girlfriends are the ones that suffer. Offer me a spit muffin or a football game and the muffin wins.
Just being honest...hope it helps :)
2007-02-15 17:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on that person. And we can't really set a norm for what they think about sex. We can look at the majority, but in your case, he may not fit this assumed norm. This doesn't actually answer your question, but men come from all different places, and have different experiences. So they think differently.
2007-02-15 16:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel you! My fiancee is always saying what a big sex drive he has but we only have sex 3-4 times a week. I think that honestly men aren't nearly as sex-driven as society would like us to think!!! I'm still trying to work this out myself as my fiancee is truly the best man in the world but it IS a problem that my sex drive is way higher than his!!!
2007-02-15 17:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on individual. men are interested in sex but there certain factors that can put them off like stress from work, impotence etc. So you can't compare such things
2007-02-15 17:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ell usually some one who has a high sex drive usually always love to have good sex when they can get unless he is seeing somebody else and he is keeping it secret and my self as a normal male i love to have sex as much as my ladies partner wants to have it together and i dont think it is you at all can you email me ok it would better to reply to this question
2007-02-15 16:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by harold g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋