I have read a lot about gays to understand my situation, but I still have a willing and intention to change and be straight.
2007-02-15 16:25:18 · 31 answers · asked by Alex a 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When you say "Hi I am gay and I know that, I really want to be straight" it sounds like you're a straight guy who has gay tendencies like being overly sensitive or being involved in things only girls would be into. So if you want to be straight I say go find some heterosexual guys to hang out with and see what type of things they're into like sports, cars, and sex (with the opposite sex of course).
2007-02-15 16:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Knowing about your situation, your homosexuality. This would mean you understand it was constructed in you. I do not know your situation, but it would be interesting for you to share when you first decided to be homosexual. Wait, I am assuming you understand about your homosexuality.
Once you can look at it as a constructed event, you can decide if you want to continue in that path or make changes so you can begin to construct another direction.
If you had a gender nonconformity, you could understand that was a different issue than homosexuality. you could then say that it is ok for a man to have some characteristics that seem to belong to the opposite gender. You could choose your clothing so it satisfies your sensual need as well still be manly as well.
Wait, you may have not had a gender nonconformity and thought it was a homosexual issue. You may have just found yourself being attracted to the same gender. you may not remember the reason you started to find yourself attracted to the same gender. For me it was remembering that when i was playing house, role playing the opposite gender, then kissing the same gender was the onset to my constucting homosexuality, i knew then i was not born gay. I realized through other discussions with other friends having homosexual issue also realized they had something that they remembered that initiated the construction of homosexuality, even innoscently for most of them.
They too could then step back and say, I can change my orintation because now the ball is in my court, I understand it much better now.
2007-02-16 08:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, BUT there's a good chance that if you try hard enough you'll be driven to suicide or other forms of self loathing.
I'm not being flippant here. All these "ex-gay" groups are simply dangerous.
You can't change who you are any more than you can change what hair color you were born with. Sure you can cover it up with chemicals, but it doesn't change the fact that the hair growing out of your head is still the same color it's always been.
You can pray really hard, pretend and lie to yourself and everyone around you. You can even have sex with members of the opposite gender, marry, have a family...but it won't change the fact that you're gay. A liar and a cheat, but still gay.
2007-02-16 00:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Alex, Many gays have turned away from that lifestyle with much success. There are countless web sites that can encourage you. Most of them are promoted by former homosexuals of all ages who had the same desire to become straight. If you have a willing heart and determination to seek the support you need you will become straight.
Regards M.
2007-02-16 00:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by mc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 19 I would have given anything to be straight. By 22 I was much more comfortable being gay and began to develop my own identity.
Just take your time. Go at your own speed. Be true to yourself and be just as kind to yourself as you want others to be.
Being gay is a difficult life, but it is also very rewarding. The sense of community that we have is beyond anyting that most straights will ever experience. We can and do have much intimacy and love.
Trying to change yourself will only lead to frustration and self loathing. Look at some of the great role models that we have:
The rev. Gene Robinson
Barney Frank
Martina Navritalova
and many, many more.
Just take your time, at 20, life is not a rush.
2007-02-16 00:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by Herpman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was younger, until about the end of Junior High, I always wished I could wake up one day and be straight. That never happened. Just get used to it. It's really not that bad.
And I mean it when I say it's really not that bad. When I was a kid I was constantly fighting a war inside myself unable to accept who I was and living a bitter lie to everyone I knew, but now it's getting so much better. Gay parties. Plus being straight has been around forever, whereas just recently have people begun to be openly, happily, and acceptibly gay. OMG! And I can't wait to go to gay bars! Being gay ain't bad at all...don't even worry about it.
2007-02-16 00:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm straight myself and i don't think there is anything in this world that will ever make me go gay!.... I think we are born with our tendencies and if you feel that you are only attracted to members of the same sex then sweety i don't think there is anything you can do to change! There is nothing wrong with being gay, unfortunately many people oppose to that lifestyle and i can understand why you would want to make your life easier and be "straight" but we can never make everyone happy... Live your life, be true to yourself and enjoy life.. As you get older you will become more comfortable w/ yourself.
2007-02-16 00:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think u have already understand gay is not a big deal, and now still lots of gays can enjoy their life,but u still want to be a straight...
then just go ahead,... dont do anything against ur mind, if u want to do ,just do it!!!
of course there is chance for u to change, no one will stop u, then only u have to do is make urself pursuade urself, and be happy for what ever decision u made!!
2007-02-16 02:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by SUMMER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry society has convinced you that your natural attraction for the same sex is wrong. Hopefully when you're older, you will embrace your sexuality and be at peace. It's very sad that you're going to make yourself struggle. Also, it is EXTREMELY f'd up and horribly unfair to any member of the opposite sex that you have a relationship with. If you get married to someone of the opposite sex just so you can try to lead the straight lifestyle when you're actually gay, you're a bad person.
2007-02-16 00:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is everyone's right to become straight.
I know it's hard but all starts in yourself. Be disciplined and keep away from temptations. You decide.
But you know what, being gay doesn't mean doing what gays are doing. If you could not remove being gay in your skin, then you have to accept it.
2007-02-16 01:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by Bullfrog Woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋