a married friend has an affair, her single lover dumps her for a single girl. She is hurt and clinging on.?

Question

My best friend who is married and has 3 kids begin an affair with a single guy. He found a single girl to date but my friend is clinging and is very depressed and can't let go. How can I help her??

Answer 1

there nothing you can do but be there for her, she need to talk
to someone about what going on. she has some issues to
deal with, she and her husband, and that the reason that she
is clinging to this man, he gave her something that was messing
in the realtionship, and if she does not deal iwth that she will
cheat again.

Answer 2

Married with three kids and cheating and feeling depressed? Don't comfort the S*L*U*T and make it seem OK. Drop the husband an annonymous letter and let him know what's going on. No spouse should be left in the dark when the other spouse is cheating. He has right to know. To those that say don't tell the husband, your probably cheaters to.

The problem with cheaters? Do it once and they will do it again. Once unfaithful, the trust is gone and it's over.

Answer 3

Been there done that, well with 3 married men in fact. So far karma hasn't gotten to me, but from experiences dealing with other things in the past, karma has a way of coming around and kicking one in the a**. so yeah. just be careful and watch your back, wives are some crazy people when they find out stuff.

Answer 4

You can't help her.This might sound harsh but she got herself into this mess and she needs to blame herself out of it.She is a grown women and that is a decision that she chose to make so let her deal with it.I have always loved the saying" Pay back ain't no robbery".Now she has an idea of how her husband would feel if he found out .Distant yourself from this situation before you get dragged in.Good luck.

Answer 5

Well that's what happens. You mess around and hook up with another person while you are married and most likely that person is going to mess around on you or the opposite. When you show someone that you don't respect yourself then they won't respect you. It's a hard lesson to learn but maybe she can set some strong boundaries for herself, look at her past choices and see that her behaviors have consequences.

You just need to be a good friend for her and listen. But don't support the bad behavior just support the friend. That's hard sometimes because you love your friends so much. You just be there for her.

Answer 6

Tell her to go stand on the street corner if she needs a man that bad . Give her poor kids to the state .Get a divorce and let her husband have everything . What ? Do you think I should feel sorry for a thing like that ?

Answer 7

It's good to hear that the "single's life" is still in full effect.

This is what I call a dilema. She didn't want him , he didn't want her, she took him away, an she can't take it........ superman to the rescue.

Translation: the wife didn't want the husband, the playa didn't want the wife, the chick at the bar got the playa, and the wife can't handle it....................... Jerry Springer to the rescue.

Answer 8

Tell her now she knows what her hubby would feel like if he found out and to get over her cheatin' self.
Somebody call the WAAAAAmbulance for the poor little cheater!

Answer 9

You feel bad because she cheated on her husband and got dumped? She outta focus on what's wrong with her marriage and if it's worth saving before she goes outside for intimacy.

Answer 10

its called karma, now she knows just how her husband feels if he knows about her affair. she feels no different than the wife whose husband betrayed her and left the marriage, she feels kind of lost. he just wanted a woman without any baggage.