My friend have a problem with her other friend. She felt that she was betrayed by her. What should I advice to her?
2007-02-15 16:17:56 · 14 answers · asked by Jeanus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Move on. Don't spend to much time thinking about it. Consider it a life lesson learned "never fully trust anybody".
Her friend will probably be the sorriest & feel the worst in the long run when she looses her friend for betraying her. Make new friends but be careful from now on..............
2007-02-15 16:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on just how bad the betrayal was. Some people can feel betrayed over the rediculously small things that most people wouldn't even think about twice.
If she truely values her friend, she should forgive her.
Good friends are hard to find.
She has to ask herself, "What is more important? The friendship or her temporary feelings?"
Ofcourse, I don't know the details of the betrayal but most are insignificant in the realm of things.
Now if her friend was hitting on her boyfriend or husband, it would definitely be time to drop that friend like a hot rock.
It all depends on how severe this betrayal was.
If it's not a huge deal, a truely good friend would let it go. Now that's a good friend. She may need to do that.
The friend that betrayed her needs to be told if it really was something bad. If it was that bad, then she never was a true best friend to begin with.
Friends don't do things that would hurt the other.
They stick together through thick and thin.
2007-02-15 16:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem last year with two friends. Ask her to tell you what exactly made her feel betrayed. If it seems like something not as big, then tell her she's making a big deal out of it and will lose a good friend. If it's big, maybe tell her to confront your other friend. Tell her to tell the other friend how her betraying her made her feel hurt and well...betrayed.
Also, if they haven't been friends for long, it might not be that big of a deal. But if they've been friends for some time, they could be ruining all the years spent together.
2007-02-15 16:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by The_Resa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends should be able to talk about anything. Like anything else in life your not always going to agree on everything. You probably won't always like the same things. If this person is really a true friend they should be able to work through what ever problem, no matter how big or small. If the person doesn't want to work through it, there not a true friend at all.
2007-02-15 16:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Susan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be sure before she accuses her friend of betraying her. It could be very hurtful to make a false assumption.
2007-02-15 16:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Felt??? Find out for sure, was she really actually betrayed?
Feelings clouds ones mind. She needs to ask and be sure...
2007-02-15 16:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her a true friend would never betray her, you should be able to tell a friend your deepest darkest secret and it go no further. They should always stand behind you and be there for you.
2007-02-15 16:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about the reason you feel betrayed by her and if its her actions then try to understand why she did whatever she did. Was it intentional or not. If so then you have your answer.
2007-02-15 16:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Cial 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is really mean and selfish hen why should you be her friend? you desurve to have a special friend. and not feel betrayed. find a better friend.
Good luck
2007-02-15 16:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was a really good friend and she feels betrayed either it wasnt a good friend. or it is a good friend and she will get over it
2007-02-15 16:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 14369 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋