we dated in college and it never went any place. now 15 yrs. later we have reconnected via email and he has visited me. he lives 12hrs away. he has always loved me,but he has now been married for 3yrs what should i do
2007-02-15 15:48:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since he is married you need to stop all contact with him. This is not right or fair to him or his wife and or marriage. You need to move on with your life without him in it and find a guy who is single andavailable for you to love and be with.
2007-02-15 15:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give up this idea before you end up wasting all your time and money driving back and forth to carry on an affair with a married man. Nobody deserves the heartache that brings. Change your email address and tell only your trusted friends what it is.
One possibility: he's just playing. You live 12 hours away so he thinks he can indulge in the excitement and romance (and sexual thrills) of an extramarital affair without the risk of things turning messy like they would with someone who lived in the same town.
You don't need this! Ask him not to contact you again until and unless he has been divorced for at least a year. Never ask someone to leave a spouse or lover FOR YOU. It can only end in disaster. If his marriage was not meant to be, that's one story, but don't force his hand, and don't let him have his cake and eat it too. Remove yourself from the menu.
2007-02-15 16:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by sparticle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say that it is not a good idea cause he is married and must love his wife or he would not of married her. I think that maybe he is missing something in his marriage and is looking to fill that spot but not replace his wife. I would not be a part of that.
2007-02-15 15:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by xyz 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first of all, he is cheating so he is wrong, but so are you because you know he is married and you are continuing the affair. second of all, it really doesn't matter if he loves you or not if he isn't going to leave her for you. last, and most certainly not least, let's say he does leave her and get with you, what makes you think that he won't cheat on you?
2007-02-15 15:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he will cheat with you he will cheat on you later!!! ruuunnnnn! If he was really a stand up guy he would have left his wife and THEN started to date you. Trust me you dont want this guy no matter how much he is smmoshing you
2007-02-15 15:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by laura n 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should not see him again ever. What he is doing is totally wrong. So, just leave him alone and move on with your life. He is not a good man now, if he has to cheat on his wife to get what he wants.
2007-02-15 15:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave this marry man along , if he loved you then he
would be marry to you and not her, he playing games, and you
need to let him go on. he cheating on his wife, and trust me
he will not give her up and if he does what goes round come
around. think about it.
2007-02-15 15:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
GOD help us all . Look at the crap. Go stand on the street corner if you need a man that damn bad .
2007-02-15 16:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of this! Run as fast as you can. He did not stay with you before and now he is chiting with who every he has now, get away.
2007-02-15 16:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by David B 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
realize that he's the kind of douchebag that would hook up with some random exgf behind his wife's back. but i'm sure he'd be different with you.
2007-02-15 15:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by nobudE 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋