my parents hate gay people how do i tell them im gay?

Question

my parents totally hate gay people. im gay what do i do. i need the best answer posible on how to tell them

Answer 1

Are you rebelling ?

Answer 2

If you are still at the age of living at home I would avoid telling them because you'll have to see them everyday, however I am gay and my parents hated gay people but when I told then they completely changed how they feel about gay people, sometimes it's just best to ignore what people think and just be who you are, you'll be more happy living your life as a openly gay guy, but you'll hate living a lie, good luck :)

Answer 3

If you have the guts, take them aside and start a conversation you know will lead them to saying I hate gay people or gay people disgust me or some other remark of the same. Then ask them if they hate you or feel the same way about you. Then say I am gay.

OR

Ask them what they think of gay people in a conversation one day, get there perspective and ask them if they hate them from some deep down desire that they have thought about having a same sex relationship.

OR

get them to voice there opinion, write an note and leave being prepared to understand that they will blame themselves, never talk to you again or see you again.

Harsh reality but you are not accountable towards anyone else’s feelings. You need to take care of your own emotions in a situation like this one.

Answer 4

They probably hate the others, but may be the parental love will triumph, but you most respect their rules in the house. Tell them without ornamenting things, go to the point and be honest all the time, perhaps expressing the love you feel for them.

Princess doris I'm not gay and I don't agree with what they do, but they are humans and your answer was the most moronic answer I've ever seen, if you don't have something good to advise, just keep your mouth shut.

Answer 5

Only you know if your parents love you but I'll bet they wouldn't be so vocal about hating gays if they knew the truth. Don't think they are trying to hurt you.

If you really want to come out to them, you maybe should seek some counseling first. Maybe talk to your guidance councelor.

An idea might be to write them a letter explaining how you feel so if they are going to react badly, they have a chance to react and blow off any initial steam without you there. Remember that this news could be kind of earth shattering to a parent too. And its only normal forthem to have a strong emotional reaction to the news. Its not the end of the world, but it may seem that way for a while.

Answer 6

First of all it is very unfortunate that they would hate someone without even knowing them just because they were gay. As for you. Try telling them with another family member or minister. someone with support. They may not take to the idea right away and u may have to give them space for a while. But if they were any kind of parents, they will come around.

Answer 7

If you are under 18 and live at home, I would maybe hold off telling. If you really need to be open and tell them, I recommend you consult a therapist and have the therapist with you when you tell them. If you are over 18 and not living at home, you can pretty much just tell them how you feel, still may want to use the therapist idea. Be prepared, they may not speak to you for awhile.

Answer 8

well u just need to sit down w/them and tell them u have something very important to tell them and u hope they will be good enough to hear what u have to say. let them no it isnt something they did that made u gay because i bet thats one of the first things they will say. just be open and honest w/them and let them no ur not doing this to rebell against them in any way. this is who u are and theres nothing that can be said or done to change that. it shouldnt matter if ur gay or straight, ur parents should love their child no matter what. i hope every thing works out for u. good luck!

Answer 9

Say it with flowers. Hmm, new ID, created today, what is the real motivation here? You have no problem telling us you're gay, so why are you afraid of your parents? If you are that afraid save as much money as you can and keep your mouth shut. When you get enough to get away, get away and live your life, and don't look back.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

I would sit down and just tell them. They will love you and accept you no matter what. They may even change their views on gay people knowing their child is gay.