but haven't had intercourse. He can't - but we don't know why exactly. We think it must be an emotional issue now after a few doctor's visits and nothing... We saw counselors and I've tried various tactics to help: talking, not talking about it, yelling, crying, ignoring it, "fooling around" with him (not other men) and initiating intimacy, being understanding and patient, being firm. I never felt he tried as hard to find a solution as he should. He eventually got to where he didn't want to even fool around. And I reached that point too. But I'm 34 and wanted sex again someday! Then I found out he'd been watching porn (betwen $100-$500/month) and satisfying himself. I think that's addiction-level but he refused to acknowledge it. Therefore, how can we treat the problem? Then I asked him to go. What would you have done?
2007-02-15 15:19:34 · 7 answers · asked by toplessone19700 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You were right to ask him to leave. I'm surprised you waited this long. You deserve to be happy and children if you want them. You'll never get this with him. Instead of a divorce, I would get it annulled. Stick with your guns. He's been lying to you this whole time. Good luck.
2007-02-22 03:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it rather confusing that you say "he can't have sex with you" - I thought it was a physical problem. but then you say he satisfies himself while watching porns (which I don't think is very bad - watching I mean) - so it can't be a physical problem...
I guess he isn't attracted to you ( I'm sorry I really don't mean to insult you) or he has some other problem with you as a person. You have already tried a lot, I guess you need to take the next step: explain once more that you love him, explain your feelings and then ask him to leave! Sad to say but obviously the two of you are not meant to be together. I think it will hurt and you won't feel to good but it will get better and you will be able to have a more interesting and freer life! All the best for you both!
2007-02-22 02:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dame D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would done exactly the same, he is into porno and thats a big problem that I don't think it can be resolve, let him with the porno and move on, now you know when to stop a relationship when this problem arrives that I hopen it doesn't. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-21 09:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by MARY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing. You tried and tried and yet behind your back he was satisfying himself and had a porn addiction. I can't blame you.
2007-02-16 00:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a saint to have lasted this long. Move on.
He has a real problem. Heal yourself & find the intimacy you need.
2007-02-22 12:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love him don't leave because he can't have sex he could get viagra or something
2007-02-19 06:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE SAME DAMN THING ..THINK OF YOUR SELF AND THE HELL WITH HIM ...
2007-02-19 22:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by GEN-GEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋