my fiancee is in the army overseas in south korea WE USUALLY SEE EACH OTHER ON MY WEBCAM BUT TONIGHT HE DID SOMETIMG UNUSUAL HE WANTED ME TO STRIP FOR HIS LESBIAN FRIEND TALKING ABOUT IT TURNS HIM ON. I WAS SHOCK ALL I DID WAS SHOWING HER MY BOOBS IN MY BRA, IM WONDERING IS HE DOING THAT CAUSE HE DONT LOVE ME AND WANT TO MARRY ME OR IS HE JUST SICK AND TWISTED TRUST ME I HAVE MORE THEN 7 GAY AND LESBIANS FRIEND BUT NEVER EXPERIENCE NOTHING WITH THEM CAUSE IM NOT GAY, if i do it would he think less of me . has anyone been in this situation before. HELPPPPPPPP WHY DID HE DO THAT. WHAT ELSE WOULD HE WANT ME TO DO IF WE END UP MARRIED.
2007-02-15 15:06:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He may be an exhibitionist that gets off on sexual acts with other people present. What *he should have done* *before* was to talk about it with you beforehand instead of surprise you like that and putting you in an uncomfortable situation. You two need to have a talk about that.
2007-02-15 15:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable for ANYONE! I know you love this guy and your already dreaming up your happy life together, but something is abit off. It's really better for you to acknowledge these problems before your married and things get really complicated. If he loves you, you should be able to tell him that stripping for someone besides him, gay or not, makes you uncomfortable, and he should accept that. Tell him you know it's a fantasy, and you are willing to try other things, but not that. Maybe you can compromise about trying new fantasies as long as your comfortable with them. And I think it's good your thinking ahead...if this is now, how bad will it get... Really good question...I would just talk to him. Ask him if there are any other sexual fantasies he has and if not fullfilling them is really a "deal-breaker" for him.
Personally, I would be worried too. Most guys are abit freak nasty lol, but there a line has to be drawn somewhere, and it's your body so you're the one doing the drawing.
Good Luck!
2007-02-15 15:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would question him about this in private. It doesn't seem that he respects you very much. Get to the bottom of it. If he really loves you he wouldn't request such a thing especially if he knows where you stand on this kind of stuff. If he wants to see you on the webcam he doesn't need his lesbian friend there, or anyone else. He shouldn't even want anyone else. This should be something that is sacred to him. Good Luck to you.
2007-02-15 15:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by calla 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be thinking about having a long term relationship with this guy very hard! He should never ask you to do anything that would make you feel uncomfortable. Warning flags should be going up! (by any chance were they drinking/partying)
2007-02-15 16:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by kar506 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump your fiance, he is a scum. Pray for him and his lesbian friend. A true man does not ask his "loved" one to do evil things.
2007-02-16 07:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Christian Heavy Metal Bassist 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure if I believe this tale of woe, but if it's true, then I suggest you dump the creep. AND MAKE SURE YOU KEEP THE RING.
2007-02-15 15:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he made you do that because he was horny and he wanted to see you striping
2007-02-15 15:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋