I really love him, but the way he has been for the last couple of years is not good for me, which in turn is not good for our kids. Yes I will admit to being a little lonely and in need of some TLC which he has always done very well. I just dont know if I can perform without getting emotionally hung out to dry.
2007-02-15 14:49:40 · 10 answers · asked by sugarpunk123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, I left him. Also, the kids wouldnt know about it.
2007-02-15 14:59:25 · update #1
If the sex is good, then go for it. I don't understand why girls can't just have sex . . . I'm a girl and I can. You don't have to get emotional about, it's just sex and with someone you know will "get the job done".
2007-02-15 14:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why not take it slow and just start dating and try to be apart of his life with out being his whole life and see how things go. it is up to you on what you choose if best for you and the kids. Either you want to work on it or you dont it is that simple. Being lonely is not a reason to go back. Think about it, if you lonely you can date someone else who will give you TLC but if it is him you want then work on it. Good luck to you and your kids.
2007-02-15 14:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you left him its for good reason. Keep it that way and be strong girl!
Been there done that and ex came back into my life and his kids life for a short period. Ran running when I stood by my principals and right back to other girls who were flashing up their skirts. Sex just complicated everything.(If he is married with an EX chance s are he is still involved, in some way). It hurt but glad I found my backbone. I am at 8 months now. Its a long journey and often difficult especially those long night alone and special occasions. Stay by what you feel is right. If its going to work out dont throw sex into it. You arent alone in this.
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2007-02-15 15:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would do it. Just be careful to guard you emotions. Think of it as sex.....nothing more. You sound like you really love him. This may make this difficult for you to do. Have fun, but remember that you may get hurt again. Friends with benefits only works for some people. Good luck.
2007-02-15 15:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by demongelding1@hotmail.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. You will get hurt big time. You will feel used and it will not be worth it. We all need tlc but it's too high a price. I know. Because I gave in once to my "husband" and it hurt.
2007-02-15 15:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the barrer of bad news, but MOST woman can't be physical with a man they are truly in love with when they know that it is "just for sex" and he isn't emotionally connected to you..
I know it's hard, I am going through the same thing myself.
I have given in to the temptation and it's heartbreaking later... REALLY think about it!
2007-02-15 15:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not in a place where you can keep your heart out of it, don't do it. Plus won't all the back and forth of you two confuse your kids? Think about them rather than what you physically need...besides you can take care of that yourself.
2007-02-15 14:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by tiki/more 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it. My ex husband wanted to do this and there was just too much of a weird feeling.
2007-02-15 14:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by ArmyChica87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best prediction of the future is the past.
Sit down and think about the past.......NEVER be lonely enough to go back to the painful past
2007-02-15 15:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hell no! find somebody else to ocupy your time like he did when he left you three months ago! angry sex is the best sex to have! ROTFL
2007-02-15 14:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by razberrylicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋