I can't let people in..?

Question

I can't let people in.. People try.. I try... But when they get too close... i just push them away. I run. Friends.. Boyfriends.. anyone.. I feel like i am missing out on the supposedly best years of my life.

I am so lonely.

But i can't seem to change.

What can i do?

I'm scared that i will go through life without ever feeling that closeness with someone. Or love.

Answer 1

See a Therapist.

Answer 2

Change your personal mentality, first you should figure out what makes you want to run when people get close, this is obviously linked to some form of trauma in your past, or bad experiences. You need to review these experiences and find out why you hang onto them so strongly. In relationships you have to understand that two human beings of individual minds are going to make their own choices, people come and go, and as much as it may hurt, it is simply them being themselves and living the life they feel they need to.
Secondly, take some chances, with risk comes reward, but at the same time, it can go places that you did not expect, but don't take it personally. People grow and change all the time. The best way to overcome something is to understand it, and then experience it. Learn and do. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Aww...Don't be afraid to get rejected/denied etc...Be yourself, forget about what people "might" say. I know alot of people worry omg if I do this, what are people going to say? Or what if this or that. Give people a chance to express themselves too. We're not all going to always hear what we want to hear. But that's how we learn from things. If you're young, I see why you're worrying, but that will pass. Just make sure you stick with the right crowd. And be a leader not a follower. Can I get an Amen?! lol

Answer 4

Take a chance, life sucks; you're gonna love it. When you have enough of the failures, you learn to find out the real deal on sight.

Answer 5

Hmm ???