Me and my girl been going together for a while but I had to let her go because she was acting kind of funny. Avoiding me and just acting suspect. I tell her that i feel that your cheating on me and her reply was so what. She had her own problems going own at the time like her mom kick her out. Now she just told me that she wasn't cheating on me she was pregnant with my child and got rid of it already. Can you belive this girl? Now she's saying that she didn't know how to tell me and she didn't want to get rid of it but she had complications with her health. I mean she was homeless but still she should of told me. Now i'm wondering should i take her back we were going to get married. I'm so confuse maybe i should leave her alone but I care for her. And I know i wasn't there for her the way she needed me fiancially but now I would like for her to live with me and start over. Someone please help. Should I move on or try to work it out?
2007-02-15 14:20:26 · 5 answers · asked by Ineedhelp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First things first, it sounds like this girl has been through a heck of a lot in a relatively short period of time, and secondly, I don't think you should completely turn your back on her. Women who undergo abortions usually also endure a lot of emotional side effects, such as guilt, shame and regret. Also, if she has just had this procedure done her body will need time to physically readjust and heal. If the reason she was being very distant with you was because she was pregnant, that's different than if she was cheating on you. Although I have never been in the same situation, I can imagine feeling confused, panicked, and unsure; I'm sure as well as a hundred other things. I think that you need to help her re-steady herself emotionally right now. My guess is you're going to need a fair bit of patience, but I think that it is important that you don't loose your temper around her at this time. I also think that before (if) you two get married, she needs to be able to support herself financially. If she already has a job and it's not paying enough for rent and food ect, I would suggest start looking for something else. In the mean time, keep working where she is. Obviously if she doesn't have a job she should get one, even if it's only at McDonalds or some place. Married couples tend to argue the most over finances. If you both can support each of yourselves financially, it will make it easier if you do get married. Also, start saving some money now if you do plan to marry. It never hurts. I think that making a decision like marriage right now is a bad idea. I think you both need to take some time to do some serious talking about your relationship, the circumstances, and finances. Good Luck!
2007-02-15 14:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by ilovesubasketball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude...this chick is ******* with you....she problly still cares for you...but it's not worth it, if she said soo what when u asked her if she was cheating and then later told u she wasn't at the same time she told u she was prego with your kid, she's just using that as a guilt trip so u would think she really didnt cheat on u, move on, you'll get over her in time, trust me on that
2007-02-15 22:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Erica P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girlfriend is just putting on a tough front. she has a wall that she constructed to protect her. the signs are there. she likes to act flippant,slightly abusive,uncaring,and in need of worrying you. she may not have actually been pregnant. i know that sounds harsh, but she obviously needs attention.she needs to make someone hurt and worry over her. i would be suspicious of the pregnancy.dont make a deal of it. im not saying to blow her off,but im not sure you are going to be able to handle the emotional games that she is going to play on you .she needs your help, but not as a boyfriend. she needs people who can help her with the basic necessities of building herself a life. you are most likely not in a position to give her the help she truely needs, and she is definately not able to give you what you need in a relationship. best wishes
2007-02-15 22:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is kinda tough....but i say if you trust that she wasnt cheatin on you, then try and give her another chance, sounds to me like u really do care about her, and she seemed to be goin through alot, just try and see how it goes, if anything, break up if it dosent work, just because you "date" someone dosent mean that u HAVE to be with them forever ya know?
2007-02-15 22:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by dixiegurl6988 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes go for it take it slow
2007-02-15 22:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋