I'm a very kind person, but at the same time, I focus a lot on myself. This often gets me into trouble. How can I stop thinking about myself, and what others may think of me?
2007-02-15 14:03:37 · 15 answers · asked by C'est Comme Un Rêve 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
u can think about what u can do to help others and that the world doesn't revolve around anyone
2007-02-15 14:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go through an experience that will change your view on the world. To me it was the death of a friend. When she died I though why is it important for me for her to be dead. What I mean is I though I was so important. At that moment I looked around the room and saw lots of people a lot of them where crying. At that point I realized the world did not revolved around me. It affected everybody. From that point on Irealised i was egocentric.
Once I knew what I was I could work on changing that. The best way is to put yourself in others people shoe. Try to think how they fell in a situation as opposed on how you felt or would feel. Also, question your actions. I have caught myself being a hypocrit many a times. But I realized what I did so I correct it. The next time in that similar situation I would act different.
2007-02-15 14:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try volunteering your time at an old folks home or a children't hospital. This will do 2 things. It will help you understand what a lot of people go through, and also, you will feel the satisfaction of brightening someone's day. Don't obsess over being too self centered. Just get out of your comfort zone for a while. It will change your life.
2007-02-15 14:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to think of yourself in some ways but remember that others have feelings too. Visit a nursing home in your spare times and see the many old folks who have to depend on others for almost everything, I would venture to say that several of them have been self centered also, or if you are near a Veterans hospital talk to a lot of young military veterans without arms or legs who fought for a lot of self centered people like you, and I believe you may begin to focus more on others and less on yourself. Good luck and God bless you.
2007-02-15 14:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the SAME problem. I do focus a lot on myself...because I'm not where I want to be in life and you kinda have to think about yourself a good bit in order to figure out what you want, where you're going, what you like and don't like. Some people don't think enough about themselves and therefore, they never change or grow or improve. I'm kinda stuck in a rut and fixated on my life and wondering where it'll go. It's hard to get motivated to help others when your life feels out of control at times. I hope we find a way out of this...hang in there !
2007-02-15 14:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by BRAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had any issues when you were younger with the lack of attention from busy, un-concerend parents? pyshcological studies have orven that that affects younger children and makes them act differently as the grow older. you may feel like you need to be in the spotlight all the time because of that. maybe have a few trips to a reliable counselor will help if this is the case to find out the root of these isses if they are actually getting you punishments
2007-02-15 14:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't focus on self too much. Try really hard to think of others Do worry so much about what others think of you, think of what you can do for them. This will take you much further down the road.
2007-02-15 14:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well realizing you are this way is a good thing, most people dont. You should start doing little things for someone, a friend, or family member. Like go out of your way to take someone out for lunch you really never had time for. It really makes you feel good to see that someone knows you care about them:)) Best Wishes.
2007-02-15 14:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you've got the first step down (recognizing your problem) the second step is to work to fix that problem. If you catch yourself being self-centered, change your attitude, and punish yourself in some sort of way. some people find snapping a rubberband against their wrist works. best of luck!
2007-02-15 14:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Trombone_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time to think through your actions and evaluate your own thoughts. If you find yourself thinking, "me, me, me!" then take a moment to notice what you are doing and change your tune. A little extra thought and effort goes a long way.
2007-02-15 14:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by Robeau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHOW a little more consideration for the people around you.Make it your way of life,beginning today.You can be with anyone and still feel safe,simply because YOU ARE!
2007-02-15 14:22:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋