i am a very shy person. tell me how can i be self confident?

Answer 1

I good way to becoming self confident is to try horseback riding. It is really fun and transfigures you into a capable person.

Answer 2

Do one of the following

1. Join a small company with less than four employees.
2. Get yourself a good understanding girlfriend who shall transform you.

Both the methods work. The first would expose you to challenges and deadlines. And when you are too stressed you tend to react to your emotions by expressing anger or irritation. This indirectly responds to keep your head cool and bold. You would have to attend meetings quite often, go places, do survey and so on. The more the exposure the more the confidence level.

The second might not work that much especially when you have the wrong woman. But having someone understand you would enable you to speak up and stand for her on occasions when you find she needs some assistance and help. Constant arguments, expression of love, meeting places like parks, restaurants and movies etc would make your brain love to be open minded automatically. And the more your roam around and meet people and interact with your girlfriend the better the results.

Relax dude! Its possible. Dont supress your brain to think that you are shy. Be confident and follow any of the methods above.

Chao!

Answer 3

If u are a shy person, it doesnt mean that u r not self confident person.. The thing is that you are not willing to expose your qualities to the outside world......,

It is always good to be as a self natured person, because changing yourself will make you to lose your identity, since your shyness may be your best originality.......


Its nothing wrong to be a shy person, and it also never means that u r a confidentless person, But it is always important to express ur thoughts, needs, qualities in the places, where you should...... Bcoz this world is a selfish world, as you dont express ur needs, you will be losing the things which others get very normally....

Dont think u r a confidentless person, ur little bit shy than others......

Answer 4

Get over the notion that people are judging you for every mistake you make. The fact is everyone is concerned about how THEY look. Unless you go chicken dancing in the middle of a crowded mall, no one will notice your little mistakes long enough to remember them 2 minutes later.

It is in human nature to want to be liked AND to like the other guy. If you get in a position where you must give a speech, remember that the people out there listening to you want you to succeed, not fail. They can too easily see themselves in your shoes.

The best way to develop your self confidence is take up a hobby and learn about it and hang with others in the same hobby. You'll talk about it, share ideas, and increase your own self-worth.

Remember you are a child of the universe, no less than the trees or stars and you have a right to be here.

Answer 5

Shyness is essentially a state of mind that often emanates from types of family that one comes from. Outspoken parents often cause children to get into a shell.
I would recommend that you should firstly get hold of the world famous book by Dale Carnegie " How to win friens & influence people" & read it a couple of times. Next try to cultivate friendship with a small group of friends who you feel understand u & ur problems, if any. Pick up some joke books & laugh it out since believe me ' laughter is really the best medicine'.
Lastly, but definitely the most importany - Always think positively.
Bye bye to shyness

Answer 6

Remember that you are unique in many respects. You are a lot better than many. You may have many shortcomings but others may have more. The only difference is that you know only about yours. Another important thing is that the world does not revolve around you so stop thinking about being too perfect to ever commit a mistake. Start with some nice people who accept you for what you are.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

I'm a little shy too! But I always clench mt teeth really hard and talk freely. I tell myself to speak freely and what did I learn all those big words for if Idon't talk or stand out?
Hey, I don't care who you are, if you're shy, you won't live very long. It's a dog eat dog world. We eat or get eaten.
Keep that in mind, eh?
=D Stand up for yourself and eat!

Answer 8

HEY! I'm a girl similar 2 u.

i'm a +1 Bi.P.C student, who 's always shy & still don't attend parties or hang out with my parents.
My friends are really outgoing, but i'm totally vice verca.

things people like us have 2 understand are:
*A simple way to remove fear is to seek knowledge and understanding.
*Lonliness is often the result of the one's lack of ability to communicate.
*What we experiene now is a result of the past; but, what we experience in the future depends on what we do NOW!

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 9

Hello Chaitanya. A book I read which really helped me overcome shyness was Living in the Light by Shakti Gawain. I highly recommend it.

Answer 10

We all have a comfort zone that we would like to remain in.

I always held my head high and when I walked into a room of people I felt like I was accepted. If I walk in looking like some one who was weak and shy, I was usually ignored.

It is important to keep up with world affairs and learn a little about everything so you can fit into any conversation.

Also it's okay to be a good listener. The majority of the people you come in contact with are self serving and make sure they are the center of attention and love to talk about them selves.

You be the one to strick up the conversation and they will usually grab it and take off with it. You mostly need to listen intently and act interested in them. They love it and on other occasions they will seek you out.

Practice and learn from them.

Get involved.
Spend some time at the library looking through books on different subjects. Strike up a conversation with the librarian regarding books and references for books of interest.
Go sit in the court room and listen to different court cases.
If you have children, get involved in their school. Either join PTA and volunteer or ask the Principle if you can volunteer to help in the class room. The grade school always need adults to listen to kids read.
Volunteer at nursing homes, the hospital, the local food bank, museum, Senior citizens etc. etc. etc.

This type of volunteering will give you a chance to relate with small groups of people and you will slowly begin to be at ease with people who are also trying to broaden their horizen.

It will come slow but you will be thankful you did it. We can't help but feel good about ourself when we are giving freely of our self and helping others.

Try this. I did and I ended up in time to become the PTA President while my kids were in grade school. When the last of my children was in high school I went to work for our state agency to work with victims of domestic violence. With in 3 years I became the Director of their 7 county program. I also trained employee's as they began opening women's shelters through out the state.

My family was proud of me and all that I accomplished but no one knew but me the wonderful feeling of selfsatisfaction that I felt for little old shy me.

I didn't think I would become who I am in a million years. I felt a fear, and sometimes still have a little fear but nothing like I did when I was young, shy and lacked self confidence.

IT TAKES TIME BUT YOU CAN DO IT!!!