I feel very nervous when speaking to people and shy this is why I rarely go out and don't have lots of friends and not a job. I feel more shy with the opposite sex also but I feel I just can't socalise with people with out being nervous usually and disinterested in them.
I also think people judge me in a poor way which i believe is true due to life experience.
I also have acne which makes me feel depressed. I have episodes where im ok and episodes where i am not ok, which can last weeks some times.
I find day to day tasks very hard and cannot go to sleep early but very late which results in me waking up later.
I feel trapped!
2007-02-15 13:20:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi Naan
You might have an anxiety disorder and maybe you just didn't learn the right social skills in school I'm not sure but I can give you a few tips.
Some people might take your shyness as being a snob, they don't intend to but sometimes people come off that way. I took alot of different psy. classes and we did alot of different experiments on socialness.
I was shy in school, my parents were older than everyone elses and I didn't have the parents with friends who brought their kids over so I didn't have alot of friends in high school. I blossomed in college though. I had to give alot of speeches in college and that terrified me to death. I just started thinking about that one day and realized everyone else probably felt the same way. I used to make myself volunteer to be first on speeches to get it out of the way.
What about joining a support group for shy people? Or a group of people that share an interest you have?
I'm a support group owner for lymphedema and a pet loss grief counselor for rainbow bridge. Once upon a time, I had cancer and wound up with a disease no one seemed to know anything about, I researched it and wound up finding support groups that didn't offer what I wanted, friends and a friendly environment, so I made one. You could even make an online group. I have a website, support group, and chatroom and 226 members now and it's really great, I met alot of nice people and we all share and open up and help each other. The beauty of an online group is you can email and chat with people not face to face and that might help you as you can sit and type your replies and get to know people without being in person. That might help you develop social skills you really want.
Don't feel trapped ok? if you'd like some time email me privately and you can come to one of our chats, we sometimes have few people sometimes alot, you can hang out, chat with us if you'd like, we don't always just focus on lymphedema, we talk about other stuff too. I think once you get more talking to people you will relax and be ok and make some friends.
2007-02-15 14:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you deal with one thing at a time. First you have to understand that there is nothing wrong with you. A large group of our population has acne and they deal with it. You are probably going through a period of adjustment and that all. If the problems are such that they interfere with your ability to function then I suggest that you talk with someone that you can trust or even seek professional help, You probably are not at that stage yet so just hang in there and you will be OK.
2007-02-15 13:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be suffering from Agoraphobia. If you don't know what this is, you might consider seeking a counselor and asking for a professional opinion. It does not mean that you are broken or incappable of help, it just means you might need a little guidance to get you through this tough period.
2007-02-15 13:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Simon S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wonderful and brave for being able to ask your question - I have been feeling a lot like you are and wasn't brave enough to ask for help - For starters be very proud of yourself because you reaching out to us , helps me and I'm sure many more - Sometimes these feelings pass with time and sometimes there's nothing wrong with seeking council and help - I am truly proud of you - - Bless you Bunches
2007-02-15 13:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any hobbies? Join a club that's associated with that hobby then focus on the activity and the socializing will be easier.
2007-02-15 13:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Harbinger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are depressed, you should talk to a doctor who can give you some medicine to make you feel better so you dont have to suffer so much in school...dont worry i know how you feel
2007-02-15 13:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by lilly s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seriously consider therapy. You're not crazy, but you sound as if you could be depressed.
Couldn't hurt. May help.
2007-02-15 13:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋