how many times a week is the average for a married couple only married for 1 year. my husband wants it every night and i hate it.
2007-02-15 13:18:55 · 26 answers · asked by drenessa2104 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Come to a compromise. Give it to him 3-5 nights a week. Baby if he ain't getting it from you, he'll seek it elsewhere. Trust me on this. Learn to loosen up and enjoy sex. It can be amazing once you get into it.
2007-02-15 13:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say you hated the sex just the every night right? If this is the case there are alot of different ways to sexuallysatisfy your husband maybe you could try new things a couple times a week so you don't get bored. My husband was like this our first three years we had sex twice a day so we had to come up with new things to keep it going. Now our average is about 4 times a week and one night of what we call relaxing fun. This phase won't last forever be flattered he wants you so much now and enjoy it while it's there.
2007-02-15 23:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every couple is different and it also depends on how long you were together before marriage and if you had sex before marriage. If you totally hate it, you need to find out why. Having sex everyday to make him happy while you loath it is only going to make the issue worse. You need to have a talk and figure this out. You may need a counselor to help too, but it needs to be resolved or you will end up divorced. Sex only makes up about 10% of marriage unless there is a problem and then it turns into 90%. If you are not happy, you need to figure out how to resolve it.
We go through stages. Some times it's every night, sometimes it's once a week. I would say our average is 3-4 times a week. It just depends on what else is happening in our lives too. We've been together 9 years.
2007-02-15 21:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talk to him about it? And why he wants it everyday? Some woman like it that way. The average married couple depending with kids there lucky if it's once a week others two/three times and there couple like you that one partner wants it more then the other and you need to work it out, even if that means he has to self gratify. That a little too much me.
2007-02-15 21:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have It 3-4 times a week..And we have been married 5 years now...
2007-02-15 21:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by ~~**ttktd**~~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Know how your feeling we used to do it 3 to 4 times a day for the first year and it was all good at first than most men start thinking only about them selves that is when you start despising even doing it tell him how you really feel or you will regret it latter 15 years latter I never opened my mouth and I wish I would of 3 to 4 times a week is about right
2007-02-15 21:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by squirell_play 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the "normal" is, but hubby and I atleast 3 to 4 times per week for the first 2 years. Now (after 11 yrs, Feb.16th)we're lucky if it's 2 to 3 times per month.
As for you not caring to have it so often, he should understand if you're not up for it every night. Hope all works out for you and hubby. Good luck!!
2007-02-15 21:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by sircbstp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married 2 and half years = 2 to 3 times a week.
I'd hate it every night too! Sounds like you married a nymph.
2007-02-15 21:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by - L - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no ! I personally think anyone who is shocked/ suprised by the fact that you dont want it ever night is a liar ! And dont listen to those who say you better give it up or he will stray.....a REAL man will respect YOUR wishes.....Id hate it too if my husband was crawling all over me every night ( he would like it if I let him though ) Why does it have to be all about what he wants ? I personally like to SLEEP some nights :)
2007-02-15 23:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by RedHairedTempest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every night and you hate it....hmmm Take control over it and don't give to him. You are just a part of the relationship as he is and it is a two way street not just his way. How many times? It depends on the couple and again the two way street if you have it, the number doesn't matter.
2007-02-15 21:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your your husband, then give him what he wants. Some married couples do it every night! Who says you just have to have sex 3-4 times a week? If you want to keep up with him, try doing some exercise to get that power going within yourself, you will be amazed how much energy you will have!
If you hate it, then why did you get married, if sex is one of the needs of your husband? If you are too tired, like most women say, then there are other ways to meet his needs. You just need to explore them yourself to see what he likes. Do anything to make your husband happy and satisfied!
I would consider reading, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".
It is all about giving to him, rather than taking from him.
2007-02-15 21:32:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋