raped by my xbf. It's coming up to being 2years ago. It's a school day and I don't know how i'm going to cope. My parents don't know. Last year i was a mess and one of my friends found me in the bathroom crying but I go to a different school now and those girls aren't my friends anymore.
At my new school I don't really have any good friends I could talk to, the only person who really knows about what happened is my best friend but he lives ages away.
How can I get through this one day?
2007-02-15 13:17:47 · 14 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My mum and I don't have a very good relationship. I cant trust her.
I've been to counselling, it only made it worse.
I have to see the guy once a week so that's pretty hard.
At the time it happened I was young and I didn't understand what had happened to me.
The person who was my counsellor told me that less that 2% of people who are reported for raped are actually taken to court, even less actually get found guilty. I don't think I could bring this all up again. The court wouldn't believe me anyway as we were going out at the time.
I can't fake a sickie and not go to school because I have an appointment in the morning that I have to go to.
My xbf has a new gf and I don't really talk to him anymore. My old best friend is now best friends with my xbf (even though she knew what he did)
2007-02-15 13:37:43 · update #1
Yeah i know. Most days i'm fine, it's just because a its been 2years it's hard on that day
2007-02-15 19:24:34 · update #2
thats really sad. sorry to hear that... i doubt it will but if this helps im sorry about what happened to you. some guys just dont show control...
you really should tell somebody. he could go to juvi for it. he deserves it...
anyway on a lighter note. you should find something you enjoy doing and try that. If you like music listen to ur favorite song as much as you can. if you like sports, play whichever one you like playing the most. do something to take your mind off it. and try not to think about it at all. to me that seems to be the best thing you can do.
2007-02-15 13:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by sambucca 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to your parents about this. Be honest with them. You may still be able to bring charges on him. You need to see a professional to work out your feelings. If you talk to a school counsiler they will tell your parents, they have to by law. Dont tell any of your *friends* at school unless you want the whole school to know about it. You really should have done something when this happened, think of all the other girls that he could have raped? You could have stopped him from hurting someone else. I dont want to sound like a pain but hes a dangerous person and you had the chance to stop him. WHat if when hes older he hurts a child?
Tell your parents that you feel sick and cant go to school
2007-02-15 13:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. I'm sorry to hear about that. Wow just talk to your parents about, it will help a whole lot. I know someone who was raped at 16. It was really hard for her. She ended up seeing him at a fast food place 5 years later. She ended up calling the police and the rapist went to jail. Gosh, I reall hope that you tell your parents I could only imagine what your going through.
2007-02-15 13:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by cookydo12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but i know how ya feel i was raped by my ex-stepdad Just dont think about the bad. Listen to oldies upbeat. Stuff that will get you in a good mood and make urself prettier than youve ever been.Do what you want to do. It will never stop being aqward i promise but u can make it better by making urself feel better than tht scared lil girl.
2007-02-15 13:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was molested by my dads best friend constantly when I was younger than you. I never told anyone still today no one knows. I don't know if its to late to press charges and it would be to hard to prove with no DNA.And no witness..tell ya chick..you are just gonna have to buck up and deal with it. Don't let this jerk mess you up.Try to think like this..i am not gonna let this jerk ruin my life. I am not gonna let him get the best of me. Remember chick its YOUR life YOUR mind YOUR body.Try some volunteer work helping others that will help you.
2007-02-15 14:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by little3nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad died 4 years ago and i still cant cope it, the pain has eased a little i just think of when me and him would sit on the couch i would lay on his big beer belly and watch full house and i dont cry sad tears i cry happy tears because i think back to all the good times. i do cry alot of sad tears too because i was only 11 when i lost him
2016-05-24 05:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to school and make yourself sick (or fake it) and then call home. Or, work constantly, on anything, redoing stuff if necessary, going into new chapters of textbooks, anything to keep your mind off of it.
2007-02-15 14:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by coasterman1234 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about that. I would recommend talking to your parents. They usually understand, especially when you least expect it. If you cannot talk to your parents try your school counsellor, you need to talk to someone. Try your parents!!!
2007-02-15 13:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Minton quest 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The preferable way is to tell your parents. So sorry that you had to go through this.
2007-02-15 13:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it is just one day i would let all of my feelings and anger and tears out, i would skip school and go somewhere like a park and just cry and write poetry all day and then you will still know it happened to you but you will let allot of stuff out that you don't need burdening you.
2007-02-15 13:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by anime_manga_geek 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋