It used to be when one was hurting, there would be support for that person and encouragement for the one to be above it. Nowadays, the problem creator is being praised while the rest of these hurt ones are being blamed, insulted, told to "Get over it," "Stop your whining," "Get a life," and on and on it goes.
When are people going to start taking responsibilties for the hurt they've caused?
I, and others like me, don't want pity or deserve to be criticised for what someone else does to us. Have a heart for the hurt and stop the perpetrator.
I'm not whining or bi***ing, just for making an observing point.
No negative responses, please.
2007-02-15 12:51:26 · 10 answers · asked by Heyjay 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
theangel1025:
You're a perfect example of those insensitive people. I am not pitying or taking thins personally. It's wrong no matter whom it's done to. You use the "pity party" excuse to walk away from a real problem.
As a little girl, I was raped by a total stranger, on my way to school. Are you saying that's my problem as well? I don't want pity. Understanding and a little respect is all that's in my bag.
2007-02-15 13:20:29 · update #1
well...u r right.. this happens all the time in my school.. i used to be like that.. i have been taught violence is not the answer... but when that started to happen all i could think about was kicking the living crap out of everybody... it really does hurt..words are far more powerful than the physical aspects.. really tho, violence is sometimes the key to get respect... but !! only a certain degree such as at most a fight.... i dont want to be encouraging any more columbine accidents here... hope i could answer ur question
2007-02-15 12:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by footballer 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Baby look, you know there's a situation called predator-prey... once you find out the answer to this within yourself... no one can victimized you... Also, there are the hunters and huntee.. once you determine your position then you will see where it all got started... Now take for instance, my divorce was all his fault so I thought, however when I PLAYED THE TAPE... I saw that I had failed to heed the ominous warning since the beginning of the relationship... So let me share a secret, make a decision to move forward despite your hurt, shame,pride, victimization, betrayal and the lack of support from family and friends and determined this ain't the first or the last time, however the letdown want be so devastating.
2007-02-15 21:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by crlee45 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They are so into being politically correct and not wanting to confront the real problem. That happened with my son all the time. Most of the time he was the one that started stuff but even when I knew it wasn't him he still got the blame and I see it happening all the time to other kids. Many times kids would throw his homework papers out the bus window and he would be the one to get in trouble for it when he didn't do anything. I always knew instinctly if he started it or if he was just being picked on for no reason, but the school always blamed him.
Also the teachers do not want to take the time out to get to the bottom of things they decide that whatever they choose to believe must be right.
2007-02-15 21:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by sapphire_630 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You might be right,but remember online you are dealing with all kinds of people both mature and immature.You get an answer to a question that reflects the depth of the person answering it.This happens in life all the time...Most people are stupid though and don't have much sense.If you remember this,maybe you will not take mean answers so personally..
2007-02-15 20:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because sadly, today everything is "confrontation." Evil wins out over good, bully's get more respect than victims.
I think society has become sadistic and is getting to be more so every day. People love violence. Is it the video games our young people play? I think that is only part of it....
2007-02-15 21:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by Incognito 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For as long as I've known JoAndra, she's like John Wayne and cheap toilet paper; she takes no s**t from anyone. she's just asking why too many people are arrogant and aren't strong enough to grow up.
2007-02-16 21:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bob D. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is happening more and more these days|
The innocent are being targeted while the guilty are being rewarded|
You are set up, and when you get justly angry in response, they nail you|
Feminism is largely to blame for this sort of thing, as feminist philosophy has much informed government policy|
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2007-02-15 21:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
People like that have nothing else more important in their lives, so they badger to "make themselves feel big by putting someone down."
2007-02-16 22:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by bambi_gets_lost 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say they're jacka**es, but that would be an insult to the animal.
2007-02-16 23:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Zacarrah M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they do this out of fear that they will be the next target for the meanie.
2007-02-15 20:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋