I am 26 yrs old have been married 2 yrs and have a 1.5 yr old daughter.I am 5 ft 6 and only 110 pounds thin but my hubby is attacted to full figured more curvy women.This is the weight i have been since he met me actually i was 104 pounds when he met me.I am only a 32 a- 34a bra size and he loves a full chest.The only thing he likes on me is my butt.He says my body does not turn him on anymore?Should i consider plastic surgery(boob job) desperate to solve one of the many problems in our marriage and get him to like my body again?
2007-02-15 12:50:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Plastic surgery is very unlikely to solve your problem, because it's in his head, not your body. Contrary to popular belief, men (and women) are attracted to people NOT on the basis on their physical attributes alone - there are so many other things that people find attractive. If your husband is not attracted to you anymore, it means that something has gone wrong in your relationship, and you should make an effort to get to the bottom of that with the help of a counsellor. However, if he actually said that to you, he is really an idiot, because he has no idea how much that would hurt your feelings, and now you are left feeling guilty (something "wrong" with your body) while it is HIM who has changed. I really suggest seeing a counselor. Good luck.
2007-02-15 18:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by shakespear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a putz for saying what he said to you in the first place. Even if its true, he could have found another way to share his feelings. I would guess that him seeing you give birth might have changed his sexual feelings for you. Its frightening for a man to know that a baby has come out of the same canal that he used to enter for s_x. Suggestion? Ignore him sexually and physically for a few weeks, dont "not talk to him" but dont make yourself accessable to him and he will change his ways. If he doesnt, you dont need him......dont add anything to your body for two reasons,
1, it gives him control and in a few years he will want you to change something else. 2, its not healthy...
why dont you ask him if he would get an penile implant because he never really satisfied you, but you were trying to be nice to him and see if he likes hearing that he doesnt do it for you. its not long enough or thick enough bla bla bla, just to prove the point
2007-02-15 21:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything that you dont want to do for you husband s are supose to love there wifess likechrist love the church and our bodys are not all there is weather we are big or lil tall or short they marry us and say for better or worst and trust me in a few yrs things on him may not turn u on either and do u think he is gonna rearange things n o t !!a husband makes love to his wife his help mate and if you are the same as when you got married tha n he is being a jerk i gain weight with having my kids i gave birht to 3 sons that wight in at 10 lbs or more my husband never said any thingabout how my looks changed and when i was insucurehe said i love you no mattter what
2007-02-15 18:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋