house. My husband is the step father and my son and him do not get along. He wrote some pretty strong things that were not true. He said that I told him that my son was moving out and I only said that if he got disability but he didn't. He told me that I have to stand by my husband but my son has a mental illness. I need advice because now my father in law wants to be all nice nice but he didn't even apologize for hurting my feelings. I say good ridance what do other people say. Also, does anyone else have the problem of dealing with a step father and son that fight alot?
2007-02-15 12:43:06 · 9 answers · asked by Damian S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should always put your kids first!!!!!!!!!!!
Forget the jerk and what he wants, your the mom, your son needs you. They need to be supportful to you!
Be strong.
Also, for your son, i recommend u both read:
http://www.amazon.ca/Your-Drug-May-Problem-Psychiatric/dp/0738203483/sr=8-2/qid=1171590553/ref=pd_ka_2/702-9026866-6860011?ie=UTF8&s=books
All the best!
2007-02-15 12:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand by your son first.....however.....there are medications for people with bipolar, does your son take any? If so, he should be able to live a semi normal life.....such as working, dating, ect.. I know several bipolar people, and I had no idea they were until I was told. If your son is incapable of working, he should have no problem getting disability.
I just re-read your question.....I agree with the others, your father-in-law needs to mind his own business. Hubby needs to have a little compassion. Do all that you can to help your son.
2007-02-15 13:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father in law needs to mind his own business. It's not his marriage and your son's problems have nothing to do with him. You have to always put the kids first. Your son needs you more than ever since he's got bi-polar so you need to be supportive of him. If your husband can't empathize with your son then maybe you need to evaluate that relationship. He needs to work things out with your son in order to help with your son's mental illness. You may need to consider saying good riddance to the father in law and his son...
Never pick a spouse over your children...
2007-02-15 13:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, it's YOUR son, and you are the one who needs to make the decisions for him. Not his stepfather and certainly not his step grandfather-in-law ! You need to get help for your son, that's the most important thing. The rest of the family will have to figure it out on their own. Really good riddance !!
2007-02-15 13:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by Johanna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children come first. If your husband and son can't get along, get family counselling. Your father in law needs to mind his own business. Are you telling him how to run his life? What's good for the goose...No one would ever tell me how I should handle my children. He raised his kids, this one is yours. Good luck.
2007-02-15 12:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family counseling for your hubby and son would help if son plans to live in your house and fight with your husband.
FIL - it is none of his business - and you may need to have a word with hubby about airing his dirty laundry at your in-laws house.
2007-02-15 12:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your FIL he's got it all wrong. Him and your husband are the ones you're kicking out of your life and your home and you don't need his permission or his advice to do that. Put your son first.
2007-02-15 12:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only one who should be out of your life,as well as your husbands, is your father-in-law. nosy in-laws are a dime a dozen. his stupid advise is less than worthless. stay out of the drama between him and your husband. love and hug your adult son and thank God you are not like them. best wishes
2007-02-15 13:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its all drama...what really bothers people is not what they say but what stored up frustration is built under what they do say. It has to be more than that.
Family is family...don't give up.
2007-02-15 13:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋