Why does my best friend do this to me?

Question

My best friend is always pushing me around and making fun of me. When she isn't like this, we get along great, but it's not often. She just goes off telling my my hair is frizzy or my pants are ugly. She really hurts me sometimes, but I don't know how to tell her. I feel bad because she's gone through some pretty bad things, but come on! She is my best friend and I love her (like a sis), she's just extremely bossy and thinks she can insult me reguarly. What should I do?

Answer 1

As long as you are willing to put up with this abuse she will keep doing it. Sometimes the only thing that will stop people is drastic measures. If youre not willing to take drastic measures nothing will change. You will have to tell her if she keeps hurting you that you wont hang out with her anymore. The thing is if you tell her that you have to be willing to really do it. Empty threats wont change anything. If you tell her that then dont do it she will see she can control you.
Try not seeing her for a week or two and if she asks why tell her you are fed up with her.

Answer 2

To me it is an issue of respect which she is apparently not showing you much of. When she hurts you, just tell her and see what she says. I have had friends like that in the past but no more. If she feels the same caring for you that you do for her then she should stop but first she needs to know that you are being hurt. She could be very ignorant so it is up to you to take the initiative. Good luck.

Answer 3

Okay, I'm actually your bestfriend (type of person).
We live one house apart.
We've been bestfriends for almost 13 years.
I love teasing my friend and calling her names and stuff.
This one time, I must've gone too far and hurt her real bad.
And she didn't want to see me for several weeks. The funny thing was I had no idea she was mad at me. I myself was kind of busy at the moment, so I didn't have the chance to see her anyways.
A bit later (several weeks or so) I called her casually and asked if she wanted to hang out. I was oblivious to her reaction, I thought she was acting like she usually does. I guess her anger had cooled off.

I found out she had been mad at me a month or so later, from her sister and my brother.

Now, I try not to tease her as much, but I still joke about that incident. And we laugh about it together.

What my point is, your friend might be like me. She doesn't have a clue whether she has gone too far unless you tell her. So have a good heart-to-heart talk.

Answer 4

You have to think and figure out the real reason why you put up with her abuse? it is not because she's gone through bad things. + this doesn't give her the right to take it out on you anyways. YOU have to understand that a good friends don't disrespect you on regularly basis and you have to learn this now. Change your attitude and they way you think, which will lead to change in your behavior. Otherwise in the future your man or coworker or someone esle will treat you bad and you will come up with excuse for them too. Demand respect! find a new friend. Remeber, You deserve better.

Answer 5

Ok telling her off isnt gonna solve anything so dont listen to anyone who tells you to do so! I made that same mistake going off and telling them in the meaniest way possible how they made me feel and what they were doing to hurt me! Instead of being mature and doing something better then yelling i yelled!

My suggesting is simply this! No one deserves to be treated like crap! If she is your "bestfriend" she would never treat you like that anyway! So if i was you i would take the time to write out the nastiest letter you can on how you feel word for word be descriptive. Then afterwards burn that letter do not I REPEAT do not give it to her! After you get out all your anger and agression sit down and write a heart felt word for word honest but nice descriptive letter on how she makes you feel! You have to do something you cant allow her to treat you like this! But you cant stoop to her level ether! So be careful and delacate about this you dont want to lose your best friend!

Best of luck too you !

Answer 6

If your best friend thinks that she can insult you regularly, then she is not a friend to start with. A friend would not insult you or make fun of you, and the same goes for a best friend. Perhaps if you explain to her how you feel about her behaviour, she would understand. If she doesn't, then that's another sign that she is not really a friend to start with.

Answer 7

You should get a new friend. She does it because she can get away with it because you allow it. She makes you feel bad about yourself and that is not good for your self-esteem. If you can not stand up to her and let her know that you will no longer be her punching bag, then just find a way to end this friendship.

Answer 8

You should probably tell her "hey, I don't like it when you make fun of me...." She might not realize that she is doing it. Possibly just her nature, but if she is truly a best friend you need to talk, and tell her how you feel, have a couple of examples. Don't be mean about it.

Answer 9

Just tell her... instead of you stressing over it, it would be best to let her know, don't be all rude about it b/c she may not know any better, but tell her to stop being bossy, just like that, and I bet she will back off!

Answer 10

Are many cases for ex. when the best frien become the whorst enemy.But in any case the friendship is dangerous when 2 body is close ,when both want to shine.