As alot of you who read my rants already know my bf of 6 years left me and our son who has learning difficulties for the 2nd time 6 weeks ago.I was starting to soften a bit and was going to try and get on with him although i hate his guts for doing this again.Anyway to get to the point he sent me an email from an internet cafe today and forgot to change his password on his account so i checked his emails and found one he had sent to a girl he works with who is now obviously his gf.
He didn`t even have the bottle to tell me himself and was denying being with someone,i know it`s really none of my buisness but i have met this girl and she is truly awful and flirted with my bf in front of me,she takes drugs as does he so i suppose thats part of the attraction but anyway i feel so angry as i know he was seeing her behind my back as he started staying out all night and sometimes for days on end just before new year and he beame distant.He also said he didn`t find her attractive and she...
2007-02-15 12:10:48 · 27 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
looked like a drug addict,i`m relieced in a way that he isn`t with some stunner but feel so hurt and angry,i want to kill them both as i know she`ll be laughing up her sleeve at me.I know i`m sounding really childish but i can`t help myself,i can`t sleep and cant eat thinking about them together is driving me insane and making me feel ill,i`ve already been sick.
What can i do to feel better,as i cant face feeling like this,it`s only been a few hours and it`s driving me mad!!
2007-02-15 12:13:46 · update #1
now now - stupid thoughts lead to stupid actions--change your mind frame-- you already now she's no prize - this should make you feel better--spend quality time with your child( this child needs you now more than ever) your baby can feel what you feel- so save the baby the negative energy---find some friends and family to spend some time with this should take your mind off him for a while--next step day dream and after that make your dreams come true, if he has left you twice -he's not worth your time - let her have him - you move on -the world will never stop revolving -you should never stop living(growing as a person) i wish you the best
2007-02-15 12:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Drugs change personalities.....drugs dictate how a person behaves...its the drugs that take over the entire body...their thinking processes change dramatically....so the guy who cheated on you is not the real person. He doesnt care for this other woman....she is simply a person who lives the same kind of lifestyle he does which makes it easier for him to do whatever he wants to do. I can certainly understand how you want to kill them both....I have been there and it is easier for someone to die than to live on with another woman. It is early stages for you, you are still hurting from his lies...it is natural. Time is the only healer, but you know what youve got to do in the meantime.....you have to get it through your head that the drugs would have been a major factor in why he chose to cheat....it wasnt you....his perceptions are totally altered and the things that you and I consider to be decent, he doesnt have a clue about. You are well rid of him because if he continues his drugged out lifestyle it will only get worse....not only on the emotions, but on the finances as well. You need to let him go. If he wants to get help he will seek that out for himself. If he doesnt see he has a problem, then you are banging your head up against a brick wall...he has no conscience....the drugs stole that from him. You were in love with a drug, not a person and the sooner you can realise that, the sooner you will understand that it didnt matter what you did or didnt do, he was going to live his lifestyle regardless. A drug dependant person is about the most selfish of all people because their priorities are the drugs...thats all they think about. You are far better off without him....find a man who has a conscience...who will consider your needs and love you the way we all deserve to be loved....You cant help your boyfriend.....he needs to walk that journey all by himself....only if he admits he has a problem.....and its only when he admits he has a problem will he ever have a hope of a decent life. Dont let him drag you down with him.
2007-02-15 12:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that this girl is such a mess already makes the battle half lost on her side. How long is he going to stay with a woman like that?
Don't feel so sorry for yourself, you should be happy that things are turning out this way in order for you to quickly exit from this horrifying relationship. To be honest with you, 6 years in a relationship does not mean you guys have to continue to stay together for the sake of being together if you're not happy. Most people I know who are married for the 2nd time, have had their husbands for more than 10 years, and still took the chance again.
You have a son, and you should concentrate on moving on and giving this child a proper education. He is the most important and innocent person in your life now and you need to focus on him more rather than on negative energies which cannot change things. The only way is to let your ex-bf go through his rough patch, and soon enough he'll know the mistake he made. Remember what goes around comes around, so don't waste time thinking about revenge, it's not worth it.
2007-02-15 12:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this, are they worth it? Do not stoop as low to their level and go to jail just for this. Think about the impact this will have not only on urself, ur family, but also your son. What will happen to him then? How about both of your reputations? Instead, be a proud independent woman who stand on your own feet that your child can look up apon. Be glad that he's out of your life, that you wont have to put up with his nonesense any longer. Think of the positive. There are plenty of fishes in the water and one day, a real man will enter ur life and u will be so much happier of the foolish thing that you didnt ( would have done) then. I wish you best of luck!
2007-02-15 12:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Serendipity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I've seen, people like that that get together just make trouble together. They will get what's coming to them and you will have your son and a new man that treats you and your son right. You don't need a man to be happy. Work on the issues you have with yourself and become happy with yourself, this is a thing men find attractive I've noticed. Just take this time to work on what you need to be happy and feel good about yourself and just know that he is on the path to go downhill but you don't have to be. Forget him and move on, it hurts but you have your son to think about. When I am upset I notice my son sinces it and he becomes upset, don't let this jerk cause problems like that. Change your email and your phone number and show him that he is nothing to you. That will get to him more then anything else you could do would get to him.
2007-02-15 12:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he's a real jerk (and I only use that word because I don't want to be bleeped) so you should look at the bright side that your ex-loser found a loser to be with and you are way above them both!...being betrayed is the worse, but it sounds like he has gotten what he deserves. Hold you head up high and continued taking care of your son and yourself......good will come to you and it won't include him! Don't waste your precious time on this Earth spending any more energy on hating him...get it all out and be done with it.......you are too valuable to waste yourself on hate...and hate takes a lot of energy.
2007-02-15 12:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by G Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to get angry when you have been treated badly.
try swearing at the cat (or anything else that cant talk back). Get rid of any of his things you still have around. Do something lovely with your child and have a good time together. Then promise yourself never to give in to your x again, he is obviously not worth it. When you go to sleep have a picture of your happiest time without him in your head and plan the rest of your life. It does get better I promise.
2007-02-16 07:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by ann b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around hun so he will get the same treatment as he gave you, The best thing you can do is get on with your life and show him what he has lost the only thing u need to think about is if this girl does drugs you dont want her near your son explain this to him and if he doesnt listen then seek legal advice, and when he comes and picks ur son up and see's what he has lost he will soon be sorry. good luck
2007-02-15 12:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some therapy and be glad he's out of your's and your child's life. You don't need someone like that. You have enough on your plate without worrying about him too. Also, find a lawyer to help you plan for the event that he might decide to contest custody of your child. Good Luck.
2007-02-15 12:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by felis_filia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't care what this loser of a woman thinks of you. You should be the one laughing at her because she is stuck with your loser of an ex. I have no doubt that you can take care of your son without his father's help. You don't need a drug addict to take care of on top of raising your son. You don't say how old your son is, but if he is school age his school can see to it that your son gets the special help he needs. I would also go to court to see about child support....even though you aren't married, he still has a financial responsibility for your son. I wish the best for you. Take care....
2007-02-15 13:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋