Why do gay people think that straight people care that they are gay?

Question

Seriously. I don't know too many straight people who announce that they are straight, or call press conferences to announce it. Why can't gay people just be gay and be happy with that?

Answer 1

well, I suppose for some the fact that being gay leads to attacks is part of it.

for others the need to feel some sense of affirmation -- often lacking from many many faith communities and from their families is part of it.

for still others -- they don't - not in the sense you asserted, but they do live openly. Tell me -- is someone who walks near you holding hands with a same sex partner "announcing it?" Does it bother you? Make you want to attack them? If any of those are true -- do you ever walk with your g/f hand in hand? What I'm saying here is, make sure you aren't pushing a double standard, most people who make statements like this are.

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Reyn
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Answer 2

Straight people care very much if someone is gay, as evidenced by the amount of time and energy they put into denying gay people rights, or making bigoted comments and hate-statements, or off-color jokes about gerbils, etc.

The thinking is that if gay people come out, more straight people would realize that there really is no big deal about being gay and learn to grow beyond their petty hatreds.

As to straight people announcing they are straight YES THEY DO! Take a walk through a mall and count how many straight couples are holding hands, even making out. Open a magazine and count how many advertisements are geared toward straight people (yeah, that bikini clad woman leaning over the hood of the new car is really a licensed technician... sure). Wander through an office and see how many people have pictures of their spouse at the desk, or talk about what they and their family did over the weekend. When was the last time you heard of a romantic comedy on TV or film or even songs on the radio that didn't have a he/she bias.

Gay discrimination is very similar to racial discrimination; unless you are gay you just don't notice it.

Answer 3

I am happy about it. Personally, I could care less what straight people think about me. If they can't accept it, then that's their problem. Announcing that we are gay is a completely different situation. Sometimes we have to announce that we are gay, how else do you propose that we find someone? You have to keep in mind that in this society, people assume that other people are straight.

Answer 4

Everyone asks all the time!

Most gays don’t come out and tell others that they’re gay. Straight people constantly talk about their wife and kids. They also constantly say things like “are you married” or “do you have any kids”. So it’s them who ask, not gays who volunteer the information.

When I was younger the last thing I wanted was to tell anyone that I was gay. I constantly got asked by aunts, uncles, friends etc “do you have a girlfriend yet” (or other similar questions). Not many gay guys would go into work, meet someone new and say “hello, I’m Mark and I’m gay” (doesn’t happen like that).

Answer 5

The only reason I think that straight people care that I'm bisexual is because every time the information gets out, they go crazy. Even if their reactions aren't bad, it's not just an "Oh. Ok.", shrug, and get on with life. It seems to me like it's straight people who care more about my sexual orientation than anyone else!

And people who do come out and say it usually say it because we live in a heteronormative society that assumes "straight until proven gay". (That's why nobody ever announces that they're straight). Until we come to a time when nobody automatically assumes a person's sexual orientation, I think people should go on anouncing it!

Hope that makes sense.

Answer 6

I think the easy answer is that straight people do care. While you may not, and others may not, there are a lot of sytaigh tpeople who do. Look on here just to see.

Straight people are the ones telling us we are going to hell, that we are sick and perverted, that we don't deserve to live, and are the ones who beat the crap out of us ecause we are gay (or otherwise sexed). The day when straight people really don't care is the day gay people won't have problems.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Because gay people don't want to become friends with a straight person who doesn't know their gay, then stop being their friend because they are. It happens a lot and its painful.

I'm assuming you're straight because it doesn't seem you have an idea of what its like for a gay person in today's society...

Answer 9

Because straight people don't get beaten & killed for being straight. When we straight people finally leave the gay people alone & give them equal rights than ask that question

Answer 10

Its al in the struggle my friend. Everyone wants to have something to fight against, something to overcome. Whether or not you are actually oppressed, you make it seem as such so you have a cause. Look at GLAAD. Every little thing that happens, they chime in like their fighting off advances from a nazi regime. Struggle makes them seem tougher, like they came from a difficult background, it becomes a convienient excuse for lack of achievement. "Oh, I'm gay, I've had that hurdle to overcome, thats why my life is sh*t". Its crap. I was at a bar one night, and two lesbians walked in. Not even noticing them, I turned to my friend and said "this is a huge bar for last call." One of the lesbians turned to me and said "what did you say? This is a huge bar for lesbians?! WTF does that mean?". I calmly repeated what I had actually said, and her face turned red. I also added,"How's that persecution complex workin out for you? Pretty good?" Her ears were so in tune to hear any disparaging word about homosexuals, that she took what I said and made it into an oppressive statement, in order to further "fight the bigotry". The whole thing is asinine. I could give a sh*t if you suck weiners, as long as it ain't mine.