Should i get consoling?

Question

i am really shy and get intimidated really easily. i am afraid that i will make a fool out of myself in fromt of people and if i say something i thought was stupid then i feel embarressed by it for months!! i feel like i almost need consoling to boost up my confidence. is this the type of thing where i can work it out with myself or with a consoler????

Answer 1

You should try and see if there's something on the web. Maybe there's a support group of some sort that could give you some ideas. If you can't find anything on the web, then try counseling. Counselors have probably heard about this type of problem over and over again and probably could point you in the right direction without getting too far into your wallet. This is a common problem for alot of people and the sooner you find some answers, the better you will feel about yourself.

Answer 2

What you are looking for is a boost in self esteem as well as confidence, and yes a counselor could help you with that. But you can also help yourself.
Try doing this excercise for self esteem:
Look in the mirror and find one thing that you really like about yourself (it could be physical or personality, it doesn't matter). Then repeat a mantra, or a phrase to help you focus, for as long as you need. For example you could say
"I am funny. I am funny. I am funny. I am funny. I am funny"....and so on and so forth.
For confidence try new things! Write your goal for each month of what new thing or things you want to try. For example you could try performing in front of a small group (like a skit or just acting silly, it doesn't have to be a school play or anything like that).
Also good for a boost in self confidence, especially when you think you've done something really embarassing, is to minimize it. Say you tripped in the lunchroom. Tell yourself "It wasn't that big of a deal. I'm sure no one will remember it in a few days." The more you say it, the more you believe it!

I hope that this helped you!!

Answer 3

First thing that I'd like to say is there is nothing at all wrong will getting counsel , if more people would realize that counsel can be a good thing they would be a lot happier in the choices they make - And that being said I think that you would find it in your best interest to seek counsel they can help you to understand why and what you can do to believe in yourself and know that the things you have to say and share are just as important as the next person - Great Luck - You have already started the process by asking this question -

Answer 4

Well....You can try to solve it alone in many ways....One of them is to get involved in social activities so that you can overcome your shyness....For example, a debate club would be a good place to go to...There you will be able to express your opinion and thus boosting up your self-confidence....If after that, you still have the same problem then I advise you to get counseling...Good Luck

Answer 5

Your question sounds as if you are asking for help--that you cannot work it out yourself. Therefore, it would be best to go to counseling--the people there are trained to help you work things out.

That doesn't mean that you shouldn't try self-help books, meditation, positive affirmations, etc. as well as going to counseling. The more you do for YOU the better. :)

Answer 6

sounds like you have social anxiety... there are medications you can take but i would get a therapist/counselor to guide you and talk with you first. sometimes you outgrow this all on your own

Answer 7

You can work ANYTHING out by yourself. Know that. Beleive it. However, you should not always attempt it when help is available. Seek professional help. =]

Answer 8

WELL U NO IT IS UP TO U IT DEPENDS ON WRETHER OR NOT U WANT TO GO