I am married for 2 yrs. mine was an arranged marriage, for those from india its not a big surprise but for the rest its a culture schok.i understand. but thats what happened in my case, we got wed by the wishes and blessings of our parents.but i dont know i am not really happy with it coz since we have married it always one sided. i am very excited abt everything birthdays,anniversary,valentines day all this means a lot. i love surprises,gifts,waiting for eachother,wanting to be with eachother.unfortunately my husband does not seem to understand it. for him birthday or valentines day means just another day. from the we have married he has never gifted me anything without me asking for it. i have tried giving him gifts,good special dinner for him, giving him small surprises, he takes them well but does not do anything in return. it kind of upsets me.even if i give him card or presents, he reads them n gives them for me to keep. i dont know how thins would work.plz help
2007-02-15 12:00:08 · 3 answers · asked by hello f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not sure if you live in India? If so, is this common practice for husbands? Do your friends' husbands act in this manner also? Perhaps he was raised this way. Do his parents act this way? I don't know your culture but is there a way you could tell him how you feel? Or perhaps his mother? Since it was an arranged marriage maybe you are just going to have to accept him for who he is. Does he take good care of you? My husband also does not buy gifts for me. I have learned to accept it. I still get him things though because I like to. If i want something, I will ask him for it and he will get it. Maybe you need to realize that it isn't picture perfect but it is better than most have. Good Luck.
2007-02-15 12:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by felis_filia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can continue with this if it's all one sided. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership of equal partners and both should be willing to do what is necessary to make the other happy. Your husband isn't interested in making you happy from what you say and he may never be willing to make an effort to please you. You will resent him for this and sooner or later begin to hate him. Any love you have for him will die through his neglect of your happiness. I'm sorry!
2007-02-15 12:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree marriage is a partnership not one sided he should be willing to try to make you happy as well
2007-02-15 12:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋