why do a marriage fail , in the first place ?

Answer 1

Maybe because the couple got married when they were not ready...or too young....marriage fails for all kinds of reasons....but if you do it when your young or not ready, it fails from the start

Answer 2

One of the two people in the relationship loses interest in it.

Wanna know why? Because their partner either isn't growing as a person, let's themself go physically, has a bad attitude, is disrespectful, is too structured and controling, is always taking and never giving, or has no integrity (says one thing, does another, is confused all the time, doesn't have their act together), or they turn into a doormat and set themself up to be disrespected.

And sometimes something weirder like the death of a child changes everything. Or mental illness!

And sometimes, the partner leaving never loved them at all (actor/actress, gold diggers, etc).

Don't buy into the "it's usually communication hype". If both partners have integrity, then there's no communication problem. When one is saying one thing, doing another, and a confused mess generally speaking, it's only a matter of time before they do something to totally confuse the other one, and you get the "magic communication breakdown" everybody talks about. This is why integrity is the most important quality to look for in a partner--when you are dating, make sure you pay close attention to what they do as opposed to what they say because people with low integrity will have a major gap between what they say and do, and you can't trust them... ever. Doesn't matter if they say all the right things.

Answer 3

In some cases people tend to grow (change) in different directions. Actually, it depends on the couple. Some people get married without thinking it entirely through. Too many rushed marriages are shortened due to being in too much a hurry. If you love someone, you'll wait and not worry if it'll work out. Rushing causes regret.
I'm thankful for my being Wiccan. We perform a Handfast, then if we decide not to further it, we go back to the priest/ess and have a ritual of burning the agreement of making a tie with the one we thought would last til the end of time. At the Hanfast, the priest/ess ties a rope around our wrists together as the bond and if, heaven forbid, we should end the marriage, the ritual calls for the rope, once again, to tie the rope. When the agreement of ending the bond occurs, the priest/ess undoes the rope - as to remove of the bond.

Answer 4

Well, here's a study in the UK of causes cited:

Extra-marital affairs - 27%
Family strains - 18%
Emotional/physical abuse - 17%
Mid-life crisis - 13%
Addictions, e.g. alcoholism and gambling - 6%
Workaholism - 6%

People often say 'money', and some studies have shown that. I'd assume money here fell under 'family strains', suggesting that sex, rather then money is a bigger problem.

This data would suggest infidelity is a big issue, and that if people could just keep it in the marriage, it would be fine. Of course, that's the view of people who _filed_ for divorce.

InsideDivorce's surveys suggest that 'my partner had an affair' is a major reason for divorce, as is 'lack of sex'. "I had an affair' ranked far lower on the list. It appears to me as though a frequent pattern is that one partner is dissatisfied with the sex within the marriage and ends up cheating, the other partner finds out and files for divorce. If you ask the filer why the marriage ended, they'd say it was their partners cheating, if you asked the 'cheater' they'd say it was the death of their sex life within the marriage. Cheating because of dissatisfaction _appears_ to be more common then simply cheating 'to spread seed far and wide'.

So I'd suggest that internal disagreements over sex and money are the biggest reasons marriages fail, followed by physical abuse, addiction, and purely extra-marriage relationships.

Answer 5

There are lots of reasons why a marriage can fail. People grow apart because of religious beliefs, unsatisying sex life, money issues, dealing with kids, adiction, violence and 1000 other reasons. The main cause of marriage breakup is lack of communication though when the couple stop talking to eachother. I mean talking about important things and the stuff that can be difficult to talk about rather than the ordinary everyday stuff. Remember that your partner should also be your best friend and to keep that relationship healthy you confide in them, tell them your fears, hopes, desires. When that stops it turns into a different, more platonic relationship. That just isn't enough for a lot of people.

Answer 6

Because morals as defined by God dont seem to matter to very many people anymore.

Because so many people have a fantasy idea of marriage rather then a realistic one. They also insist upon continually trying have that fantasy rather then working together to make reality wonderful.

Many are selfish people and insist upon their own way, rather then worrying about the mate and what they feel or need or have a right to expect.

Because many people cant or wont see or accept when they are wrong about something and instead find it easier to replace the mate with someone else.

Because so many get married to people they think they can change or want to change, instead of realizing that maybe they should pass this person by.

Because so many people have a double standard. If they do it, its okay. If someone else does it, its wrong. If you have a view, it has to be right. If they do, they are stupid. If they do something good or right for you, they are just doing what they should. If you do something good or right for them, you deserve a medal,

Because their isnt much cost for doing the wrong or immoral things, such as divorcing for anything other then adultery.

Answer 7

Marriage falls apart for some many reasons. Usually people do not marry for the right reasons and they choose to run when things get tough instead of working through things together and with their spouse. Lack of communication and adultery and cheating is another key factor as well for marriages falling apart. Lack of love and lying happends too. I feel that the word divorce should be even be in the marriage vocabulary at all.

Answer 8

Money is usually one of the major reasons for a marriage to fail.

Answer 9

If the marriage fails it is alright: we can go for another: but marriage life should not fails:

marriage fails because of so many factors
1.horoscope 2.dowry 3.family status 4.complex between boy and girl and etc

Answer 10

because it looses its omphh...., the magic plus the excitement over the years. its also mostly taken for granted. marriage nowadays is more like a business. people want to feel wats its like to be "king and queen" for a day, the trill of shopping, gifts and party. But after that reality steps in. Once u find excuses and time to be with your luved ones, now they are there 24 7 in your lifes. Woh mazaa nahin rehta na. Then problems set in and most of the times, either one or sometimes both tend to find solace somewhere else. The rest is history..........