Okay so there are these 2 girls who I have gone to school with since we were in the kindergarten. We are now in Junior High and one of the girls used to always get jealous that I used to be best friends with her best friend. Aka This girl named Jenny WAs jealous that I was friends with her best friend Erin.
Then I got sexually assaulted and Erin was there.
Erin betrayed me and was a backstabbing betraying friend. I immediately stopped being friends with her because Jenny and Erin victimized me in this time of crisis and they were doing it to intentionally harm and blackmail me.
Now I am back at school and we had made a truce, they broke it and now everybody treats me like dirt. They call me names, and iI used to be popular and now I am not. only a few people like me and it drives me insane because these girls dont deserve to be treated well. they continue to play the victim in this situation! Now i am taking matters into my hands how should i respond?!
2007-02-15
11:38:18
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Also I have told all my authorities (mom dad school...POLICE even!) but they still seem to believe that there is nothing they can do and that I should just ignore them. Its more complicated then that! They need to learn their lesson! I want to get them back but then again is it right to? they deserve it! they drove me to suicide like twice and I cant handle it anymore. the whole time they were doing this to me i jsut ignored it like my authoritites told me to and now its turned upside down and I HAVE TO DO SOMETHING BECAUSE IF I DONT PEOPLE WILL KEEP ******* WITH ME!
2007-02-15
11:42:58 ·
update #1
I am not trying to play victim, I am trying to figure out what to do and I don't need anybody else being mean to me about this. They are playing victimm because they try to make everyone feel sorry for them by saying (this girl called me this!) when really I know it sounds stuck up but i know they are just jealous because i could have had almost any friends i wanted but they couldnt because they were bitches. and so now they are trying to make everyone feel bad for them! i dont understand this is what i ean by victim and I WAS A VICTIM SO I DONT WANT TO PLAY THIS TWICE!
2007-02-15
11:46:16 ·
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Okay I see what your saying and can relate to how you feel. If I was in your positon right now I would regrain my strength and show the rest of the people in your school the better things in life that make living worth while and fun not all this bull crap these girls perform. If you can do something to show others these girls aren't trustworthy and you are, then others will start to gain your side. You want others to feel confident in you. Ok some things you can do is like: Lend out a hand when you see someone who needs help, or give things away to someone who needs it for free, join some fun groups where you can get a group of friends to understand your a fun girl. That way you have some friends you helped, a group you supported and your on your way to becoming popular because people see your honest and cool. TRUST ME KIDS LOOK FOR PEOPLE THEY CAN RELY ON AND TRUST without getting intio trouble. These other girls are using you for their attention. HERES THE KEY: Listen to others and don't excpect anything in return. Don't talk about yourself as much as you listen to them. After you gain these friends you can start receiving what you want. It's kinda like a business.
2007-02-15 11:49:47
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answered by Daniell 2
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This is a really difficult question to answer. What i would do is try to talk to the girls and whoever else is apart of this "crime" if you will. But do it seperately, You wouldn't want it to feel like your being ganged up on with al those people. This way you can also see the stories that they tell and see if any of them link up or are the same or are different. Another thing is, just think, are they really worth throwing away a ton of your time? it sounds to me like they aren't. If you aren't popular is it really a big deal? if it is then you might have a problem on your hands. If there are othere people in the group that are still nice to you and you feel like you can count on them, then stick to them! If not, then try to look for new friends. friends that you can actually count on! Hopefully this helped a little!!!! good luck!!! oh and report the person that sexually assulted you if you haven't already!!! again, good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-15 11:47:36
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answered by soccerqueen155 2
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Hold your head up high. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Girls unfortunetely thrive on drama, which you have two of the biggest drama queens going. Ignore the close minded people around you also. If you show them it doesn't bother you, they will move on to someone else. You may want to consider in joining some after school programs like sports or theater. That will send people the message that you are not going to hide no matter what they say. Reporting them only makes the matters worse, but if they start physically abusing you, then you go to your principal(do not leave until he/she sees you) and insist you get these girls in there and discuss and possibly call the police and file an assault complaint. Good luck.
2007-02-15 11:46:03
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answered by hazeleyedbeauty1967 6
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Your best defense is to rise above it. Don't play games, it only makes matters worse, as does retribution.
You know you were the victim. By taking things with a grain of salt and ignoring the taunts, you are taking away their power. Only if you react do they have power over you.
Be your own person, and never let anyone else create or manipulate the way you act. If you carry that throughout your life, you will get through many sticky situations without melodrama or undue hurt.
I wish you well.
2007-02-15 11:43:46
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answered by lisa_tilton 3
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Boss up, ignore them. Treat them like they're invisible. If the girls keep talking mess while you're ignoring them, shove her away and fight her. Join a new group of friends and hang around them as much as possible, you'll be fine. Also, try to get somebody that work at your school to help you out. If you or anyone else reading this like my answer (or anyone reading my answer) need any other advice on this type of stuff from my, e-mail me at:
kiddie4kieon@yahoo.com
2007-02-15 11:47:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Well, I have these two girls at my school too, and they are such cheerleaders, they really are cheerleaders and they think they own the place. What you do is ignore them, they'll come crawling back to you, and what you should do is hang out with your true friends. Hope everything works out, and be sure if the two girls give you a hard time, stick up for yourself, you don't deserve to be treated this way.
2007-02-15 11:41:52
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answered by Katherine 3
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If he makes you uncomfortable tell the instructor, your mom and father or someone with authority. no one has the right to be an asshole. do no longer wrestle him or some thing, he feels like an fool. As a guy of their 20s and lengthy gone through/seen/ or maybe done it in the previous all of us improve up when we graduate. your associates (or enemies) will be no the position to be discovered once you graduate. If someone informed me this at the same time as i grow to be in college it would have kept me stress yet now we are all damaged up and all we've is facebook and thoughts. do not enable the small stuff get you disappointed. when you're not any further fat then you quite are not any further fat. in the destiny you wont even keep in suggestions this stuff a useless ringer for undemanding college. Like I suggested till then that would not advise he has the right to make you uncomfortable joking or no longer. you're going to discover people like him lots in existence and it is a ought to to regulate the way you deal with them as early as you are able to.
2016-12-04 05:47:14
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answered by ? 4
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Don't respond at all. Thats what the person wants just wants to play head games with you because it makes the feel better about themselves because they are not happy with themselves.Also are insecure about themselves. Retalation will make things worse.Only thing that will make them stop is if there dead or they get there *** severely beat they have to eat out a straw.
2007-02-15 11:43:46
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answered by Anonymous
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when theyre hangin in their room
take a big manilla envalope
fill it with shaving cream
hold the end closed and slip it under the bottom of their closed door
JUMP on the damn thing and it will send shaving cream exploding all over their room
its quite funny
OR when their door is closed put a bunch of pennies in between the dor and its fram and the door wont open. or use nickles if theyll fit, then theyll really b stuck.
if all else fails, spread a rumor one is a hamaphrodite and small underdeveloped sex organs are the others fettish(sp?)
2007-02-15 11:44:07
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answered by Anonymous
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Gurl if u dont get a back bone, play their game, make up stories about them, pretend to be their friends, or just spread their business around school, if that doesnt work , just fight them, that will teach dem their lesson, make sure u punch em right in the mouth so they cant talk **** no more, dont worry bout other ppl be your own leader sweetie
2007-02-15 11:43:19
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answered by Starla 1
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