*How to heal a broken heart?*?

Question

I've recently been talking to a friend from the past and over the duration of our growing friendship, he broke up with his girlfriend of six years. I know that breaking up was the right thing for both of them and so does he. The thing is that he was so used to having her there that he feels really alone. He's trying hard to heal but she keeps calling and texting him, keeping the pain fresh. I've been trying to help him through this but I'm really at a loss of ideas. He's going to call me tonight after work and I really need something to ell him to give him hope that its going to get better. What can I do to heal his broken heart?.....he's also telling me that he is developing feelings for me...I know that he is just mixed up right now because of this emotional blow. I just want to help him, I'm not trying to steal his heart.

I know about the whole rebound thing. I've told him to hold on to that thought for a few months and that I wont be anything more than a friend for now and that we'll see where things go when he is completely healed from this. Arg! why do things have to be so complicated? >.<

Answer 1

Tell him straight out- do NOT accept phone calls, texts, etc from this girl. Its a break up, they were not compatible, they both need to move on. (Granted I don't know the situation) But oftentimes an ex will continue calling if A: They won't let go of it, which sooner or later he will tire of and just quit taking her calls anyways or B: They feel as though they were the reason for the break-up and are trying to keep contact because by the other person responding they feel that they/ their actions were not that bad, because they are still on speaking terms with their ex. While this might help the caller fall asleep at night, the healer is getting nowhere. He needs to distance himself so he can begin to rely on himself again, and you need remind him that you are not her and you being supportive of him is strictly out of friendship.

Buy him a huge barrel of pretzels or pickles. Everytime he wants to call her or answer her text, tell him to eat a pretzel. Tell him that he is not to call her or answer her calls until the barrel is empty. By the time the barrel is gone, hopefully he won't be interested in speaking with her and he will realize it was comfort he was seeking in the first place.

Answer 2

things r complicated becoz we r complicated,
if u look similar like ur cartoon pic, then im starting to develope feelings for u as well, and thats just about the answere
people that come together, people that fall apart (moby)

first make sure if u r developing feelings for him subconsiously, coz then 3 of u will only fool urselfs

and dont give a damn to his girl coz some people have this psycho element of trying to make others miss them and get satisfaction out of it.

goodluck and if u dont have any feelings for him, then i would like to get in touch with u, if u allow emails (wink)

Answer 3

oooo that is a tough one.. you should keep ur distance as far as him having feelings for you now. he is just hurting is all right now and he is on the rebound.. let him give himself some time.. it's good you talk to him but keep it friends for a while.. you don't want to be the rebound.. just tell him it takes time, whatever you do dont say get over it.. i hate when people say that..tell him ur there to listen.. just try not to make urself always ready and available he will get used to that.. good luck..

Answer 4

just tell him if she calls, don't pick up. if she texts him, don't read it, just delete it. she leaves a message, don't listen just delete it.
best u can do. just avoid her completely.

Answer 5

OK WOAH slow it down! if he says he has feelings for you how broken can his heart be? also, the ex obviously likes him so if he doesnt love her than tell him not to talk to her! DUH!