My Wife a couple of months ago went out with some of her female friends to Ann Summers party......well the other day i was looking for something in our bedroom cupboard when i came across a box containing what i can only descibe as a number of well used strap-ons and other things(not in their wrappers or boxes,and not smelling fresh and plasticty if you can understand).
Thinking on it now one of her best friends seems always to be around when i get home from work...when i chat to her (the friend that is),she seems to go all sheepish and coy.
How can i approuch my wife on this subject,the more i think about it i feel i`m being paranoid,its starting to eat into me,i love her dearly but i find it hard to brouch the subject.....i know we have haven`t made love for abit now as she says is always tired
2007-02-15 11:16:14 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to the wife....and if she is too tired for sex- maybe she shouldn't be going out--good luck!
2007-02-15 11:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Michael as a Catholic you will want t o take the initiative and learn about Natural Family Planning. there are really 2-3 days a woman can get pregnant so.... don't have sex on those days in the future ;) she may be having some hormonal issues -- worrying about downs as well as all the other challenges with a child being born of an older mother. you may want to talk to her ob gyn and see what the real challenges are - she will have to be going through a lot more tests as a late in life mom. the only blessing is you have many kids already so that is a positive! she IS right about the hormones and just go with it. you might want to continue to do things just for her -- don't ignore the baby but remember too that she IS your wife and needs her own attention as well. I know for some friends who were in those funks i would send something for her.... a manicure & pedicure or other pampering just for her. everyone fawns over the baby and with hormones raging already.... this is where she would need some "her" time. maybe a weekend at a B&B by the water or woods or wherever you two like to go.... God bless you in your new adventure!
2016-05-24 04:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to just come out and ask her about the things you found you can always pretend to look for something and just happen to come upon this box of her little secrets. Then ask her what this stuff is all about. Make sure she is somewhere around or better yet in the room so she can see you pull it out or open the box. Ask her straight out is she using them on her friend or having an affair. Let her tell you what they are all about. If she refuses to answer you then you have the right to dig deeper and just flat out ask her what the hell is going on. You are er husband and you have every right to know about her sex life. Then you two will need to decide what to do next, it is your relationship.
2007-02-15 11:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her (have a stiff drink first). Isn't marriage, or any relationship, all about communication? The truth may hurt you, on the other hand it may not, but then you'll know what's going on and will be able to make a decision as to how to proceed with your marriage. If it's a passing phase, you might consider some joint counselling (I know that's a non-Brit thing to do) but it could help. If, on the other hand, she now prefers women, you can't compete with that. It's not your fault, it's the way she's wired. I hope for your sake, it's a passing phase and you can both work through it. Good luck.
2007-02-15 11:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you found, tell her what you suspect and why you do. Then tell her cheating is cheating,(even more perverted) even if it is with a woman and that you will divorce her *** for it. Forget what the pervs have to say about it. Forget the threesomes and the bi is okay crap.
Kick the freind out of the house and tell the wife she can follow if this is a problem with her.
Yeah, I know you love her, but you have to set the line somewhere. Hey, anyone will love you back if you will let them get by with whatever they want or you are too gutless to put your foot down.
2007-02-15 11:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be into other woman or stuff since you are finding strap ons and things like that. Maybe she is bisexual. Ask her and see what she has to say about this. You really need to find out what is going on here and get the truth out of her. She may be tired because she has been with other people already sexually.
2007-02-15 11:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she always seems tired then why not give her some pleasure & massage her and see where it goes from there. It always works for me & my bf. I think she might be curious & be experienting with the opposite sex. Why dont' you ask her a "trick" question like "would you eve consider a 3-some? " or something of that sort and see what she says. If she gets nervous and says no then she's hiding something & if she says yes then ask her about what you found and why she won't share that with you.
2007-02-15 11:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by mari d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a bi-sexual I would say that you need to just come right out and talk to her. Especially when finding the toys hun. I live with a man full time, but I am open with him and he understands my urges to be with woman...But talking to her is best in any light.
2007-02-15 11:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...doesn't sound too good. I know all the evidence points toward infidelity, but don't jump to any conclusions. You need to talk with her about it. Sit her down and have a heart to heart with her...be prepared just in case you may hear something you aren't counting on.
2007-02-15 11:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the words Bi-curious mean anything to you?
Try to mix it up in the bedroom, if you show her something new maybe she suddenly wont be so tired, try a toy.
NOT ONE FROM HER BOX, make the effort and venture out to your friendly local sex shop and make a purchase!
keep it simple (especially for you) and don't be intimidated by what you find in the shop.
2007-02-15 11:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi,
just talk to her ask her out right you have the right to know whats going on. if she has gone south or not. you should tell her what you found and make sure that you have the evidence when you tell her. be ready for anything and everything and before you take my advice talk to others. your close friends and anyone else that you can trues.
2007-02-15 11:51:27 · answer #11 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋