How to I get him to call me from the office when he is going to come home for dinner late?

Question

My fiance was late coming home tonight for dinner, and I was a little upset. Are my expectations unrealistic to think that it would really help for him to call me from the office and tell me when he will arrive home? Luckily I was going out the door to the gym when he arrived home, so I blew off a little steam working out, but I do not want this to happen again. What do you think?

Answer 1

I never expect my husband to call me if he will be late. Sometimes he does...just to let me know. But if I really want to know ( so I can plan dinner ) then I just call him......the phone works both ways.

Answer 2

Let's see. He is your fiance. He is not your husband. Did you invite him over for dinner and he showed up late without calling?

What a clod!

Just leave the food on the table, or a note saying it is in the fridge and you are at the gym. You were sure you told him 8 o'clock and since it is now after 9 you wanted to get your work out in.

If he doesn't get the message now, he never will. So either find a "real man" who cares about you, or get used to it because he isn't going to change.

Answer 3

Well how often does this happen. If not too often, land the guy a break. If it's often, start cooking just for yourself and have him buy some tv dinners for when he comes in late.

Then see how often he's late for dinner. Of course if he's dating someone in the office, this little tactic won't work.

Answer 4

It was very thoughtless of your fiance not to call you & let you know he'd be late coming home for dinner. A little common courtesy will go a long way. You need to ask him nicely if he could please tell you when he's going to be late. If not, eat your dinner, put all the food away, & see how he likes it when he comes home. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

I think you need to address it with him...but only make an issue if it's important that you know when he'll be home (such as holding dinner or going out)...don't fuss at him if it's just an attempt to keep tabs on him...

However, if you two are living together or have plans to spend an evening together then it would be appropriate for him to call. It's rather discourteous for anyone to not at least make the other party aware they are going to be late...that goes for parent, lover, etc. Courtesy.

Answer 6

You're going to have to put your foot down if you see this becomes a problem. My husband did that for a long, long time. At one point he left me (for another woman from his work place). I don't think he was doing that the whole time, but he got busted. I filed for divorce and now that he's back (and very resmorseful) he ALWAYS calls and he doesn't stay late for work any more.

Answer 7

You know, everyone has different ideas about how a relationship should be... my husband used to not be a phone kind of guy... and it drove me nuts... but he didnt' know it mattered to me that he called until I told him it mattered to me...my point is, talk to him... don't assume he knows you want him to call if he is going to be late... dont' be accusatory, say something like, "I know your job is important to you and sometimes you run late coming home, but it would mean a whole lot to me if you could give me a call if you are going to be late"... if he still doesn't well, then we have another set of issues on our hands... by the way, my husband now calls me regularly, because he knows it something that's important to me...

Answer 8

Umm Tell him hey look I have other things to do besides wait around for you @ss h@le! lol
and how late are we talkin here?
maybe there was traffic?
asking him to call b4 he heads home will throw a red flag for him why the hell does she wanna know exactly when I will get home? is she doin something that she shouldn't be?
is someone there that I dont know about?
You have to be carefull on your wording. depending on what kinda person he is.

Answer 9

Just ask him to please do this for you because you would like to know when he is going to be late and what time he may be home by so you can cook his dinner later and have it fresh and ready when he gets home. This is not unreasobale at all. I totally understand and know how you feel.

Answer 10

just talk to him and explain to him that knowing he late can make you worry about car problems or just being late. i think everyone who late or husband should always call from work or from where every they are to call you.. because you can get worry.. And show him that he very important to you and that you worry about him when he doesn't call.. You should not steam you should be mad but not mad as to fight... You talk to him...