He's been anxious around me, like I'm constantly judging him. I know he's had proplems with girls in the past, who'd say things that weren't true about him... mostly his ex-girlfriend who'm he recently dumped... Is it just him being a stupid boy or is he just regretting sleeping with his best friend, me, and not sure if it was okay?
Basically my best friend is anxious around me ever since we had sex... I don't really inderstand why?
2007-02-15 10:57:57 · 8 answers · asked by Booboo doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
or it just his depression setting in?
2007-02-15 10:59:32 · update #1
Well, it's natural for him to be anxious around you. Just b/c you took the sex casually doesn't mean that he did. What if he really liked you and then the sex happened and now he's just confused. Talk to him!!!!
2007-02-15 11:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by CuteCaribChic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS MUST BE DIFFICULT FOR BOTH OF YOU SINCE HE IS ALSO YOUR BEST FRIEND. I suppose the best you can do now is talk to each other about your feelings and decide which is more important, sex or your friendship. Usually the these two types of relationship don't mix. A sexual relationship is usually with a boyfreind and it sounds like you may both be a little young to sort out these feelings.
If you want to save your friendship maybe you would like to talk and decide if you will continue sex and consider becoming boyfriend and girlfriend or just friends without sex.
2007-02-15 19:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his ex-girlfriend was saying **** that really made him doubt himself. then maybe he is worried you secretly think the same thing.
Like when in high school I screwed around on a girl that I was dating. I had sex, then dumped her for my ex-girlfriend. She was soo pissed that she went around telling people that I had a small pee pee. Well, to any man that can ring around in your head alot. So I would doubt myself alot in later relationships. I would be worried that they were secretly unsatisfied with my size.
My point is that maybe she said somethings along those lines. that he sucked in bed or his pee pee was super small. Then he slept with you, and thinks that since you are his friend as well as his lover now you think that whatever she said is true. Even if he never told you what she said. do you get what I am saying?
If you are looking to take your relationship further. Then just flat out tell him that she is wrong. You can do it in a normal conversation, or you can scream it when you guys are in bed. Either way you talking to him bluntly about it will make him feel better.
2007-02-15 19:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him how you feel about the sexually encounter. that every thing is OK and you still feel the same about him . ask him what is wrong. he might just think things will change. let him know that your not like the other girls and sex is private to you. no one needs to know if he doesn't want them too.
2007-02-15 19:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Charlee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened by accident he might be nervous. So you might just want to talk to him about sex and what not. Tell him you won't talk dirt about him.
2007-02-15 19:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by justanotheruser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say never have sex until marriage.
2007-02-15 19:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known him.
2007-02-15 19:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by Milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's just how some people get
2007-02-15 19:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by blossom1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋